The Intimacy of Kink
In recent discussions, with both myself ;) and others, I've noticed that there's a general assumption that lovemaking is lovemaking and kink is kink. There's an implication that real intimacy, real connection, only happens with vanilla sex: that "lovemaking" is the only sex that involves love, and it has to be sloooow, with lots of looking into each other's eyes, and whispering, and seriousness about the whole thing. Anybody know what I'm talking about?
And no, I'm going to have to say that I quite disagree with this point of view. That in fact, some of the most ...
The Truth About Me
Okay, are you ready for the shocking truth? I love sex. I love S.E.X.
I understand that some of you may be saying, "duh, I already knew that" right now...and yes, it's true that I have not been hiding that fact about myself. AND, believe it or not, it seems there's a part of me that hasn't/isn't always 100% in essence about it.
Once again, you may find THIS hard to believe: For years now, maybe until about 6-12 months ago, I had lost some of my former mojo. I don't know that I can explain it, exactly. I'm sure it had to do with a combination of hormonal ...
Boundaries 101
Boundaries have been coming up for me SO MUCH lately! As I raise the bar with my own boundaries- again, defined by Brene Brown as "what's okay, what's not okay"- the next opportunity to inquire into and define my boundaries comes up.
What I know about setting and keeping clear boundaries is that it is way the hell up there with top ways for us to love ourselves. The first time I heard that, it struck me as odd, or at least as a thought I'd never had before. And, in time, I've come to realize how true that really is.
I do recommend giving some thought to this ...
What is Love?
What's been popping up for me lately is wondering about the nature of love. Or perhaps I should say Love, with a capital L.
It's a topic I've long been interested in. I remember over a decade ago when I was in school at The Hendricks Institute, and one day in class we had a Q & A session with Gay and Katie, to ask about anything we wanted. The question I asked was this: I've heard that you (Gay) don't think love is an emotion. Is that true? And the answer (in paraphrase form) was essentially yes, that is true. I don't think love is an emotion. I ...
When Shiva Made Love to Me
I was awakened in the early morning
At 5:00 a.m. to be exact
By Shiva embodied
His hand on my lower back, firmly
Already sending life force energy into my pulsing body
Receiving
Suddenly so awake, all of my senses heightened
He continued to place just one hand on me, touching, pressing, squeezing, making my body come alive
Slowly, seductively, relentlessly
As I lay on my side, facing away from him
The only sound in the room my own moans and whimpers
Encouraging me to open through his potent energy
He touched my ass, by back, my neck
Each touch sending me more ...
A Stand For Love
I am living in the new paradigm now. The Universe of my understanding requires me to show up as love.
I AM love; you ARE love.
This new place of a deeper, yet at the same time higher, understanding of this whole thing called life may sound confusing at times. It does not conform to the old ways of doing things. The old ideas of what is "right" and "wrong" hold no validity here.
Perhaps you have been feeling some conflict lately. I wouldn't be surprised. Many at this time on the planet are. The old way is starting to fall away....can you feel it? And ...
On “Making Love”
I woke up this morning with this thought: When we use the phrase "making love", what does that really mean? In fact, it doesn't make sense to me anymore.
I've always been a bit let down by the ability of that phrase to accurately reflect what it really IS. I mean, it's useful, yes, to get the point across. Different from fucking (or is it?). The urban dictionary gives this definition of making love: "Sexual intercourse between two people who love each other. Practiced by same sex couples or different sex couples." Not INaccurate, yet not very inclusive either. ...
Naked Before You
Getting naked here on so many levels.
Naked right now after going on a hard run. That I procrastinated on for the past lot-of hours today. Hot and sweaty and out of breath. Stripped down to nearly nothing before the shower I'm about to take.
And feeling very naked emotionally, too. Yes, I got very triggered today.  Yes, my last two posts on here have been very true and very real. I was raw and feeling less than and unable to move forward a couple months (?) ago. And then last week, I was in a place of feeling blissful and full of love and possibili...
My New “Poly”
I have been in a deep exploration of relationship lately.
This starts with my relationship with myself, and with the Source within me, which are kind of the same.
And here's what I've come to: my deepest desire is to be so connected to Who I Really Am that I am no longer conditional in my ability to give and receive love, to be in the flow of love, and to feel worthy of love. To experience joy. I desire to be in the flow of love no matter what. When it's raining. When I have period cramps. When the sun is shining. When someone appears to be rejecting me. ...
The Gift Within
I can think back on certain experiences in my life, the ones that seemed so hard to go through at the time, and see the gifts that were contained inside them. Surely, though, as I was meeting those challenges, I couldn't see any gifts at all. In fact, I'm quite sure it was more like: "What was I thinking when I signed up for this?!" (Anyone relate?)
Just in the past five years, there were several. Case in point, when I got into my first polyamorous relationship and experienced jealousy, I was kind of blown away by the intensity of it. Previously, I hadn't ...