Who’s The Best Tantra Teacher?

Like I said, I'm a great Tantra teacher, but I'm not the best. I have a number of colleagues that are great Tantra teachers, but it's not them either. The Divine is the best Tantra teacher there is. Whatever you call it, God, Goddess, God/dess = the best possible teacher of Tantra and the one I've undoubtedly learned the most from. (And, plan to continue learning from.) In case you're not familiar, Tantra is an ancient healing art that originated so long ago no one really knows where, when, or how. The word Tantra in Sanskrit means "a weaving together". While you ...

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Can Loss Be A Gift?

Last Saturday I was about to give a 3 hour Sacred Lingam Massage workshop, so I went to get my nails and toes done beforehand.  While I was waiting for my nails to dry, I got a phone call from a number right in town.  I knew there were no workshop participants from Milton, so I let it go to voicemail.  I later found out it was the Animal Control Officer.  You probably know where I'm going here.  I called her back and she told me that our beloved kitten who hadn't even had a chance to turn one yet had been found dead in the neighbor's yard.  It was shocking at first ...

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I’m Not Going To Lie

I'm not going to lie. It's been an interesting week.  And I don't mean "bad".  A real mixed bag, actually. Last week I had arthroscopic knee surgery.  So that's a thing.  I'm doing well.  And, it's still a thing. At the same time, business is hopping!  I think I underestimated what a big deal it is to work full time while only having had surgery a few days earlier.  And, I'm not complaining.  My ideal clients are coming to me, and I love doing this work. And then there are just a lot of people around me going through challenges ...

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Life Lessons From A Jigsaw Puzzle

I just finished a 1,000 piece jigsaw puzzle.  Well, 998 pieces to be exact.  I'm pretty sure my cat ate two of them. It's a beautiful, spring-like scene of songbirds and flowers in a scenic country setting, for those who are curious. Making jigsaw puzzles is something I used to do as a kid.  My sister and I would do them together.  I hadn't done one in decades.  Until Covid hit.  I'm going to count it as one of the benefits of Covid that I got to remember how much I love making them,  There's something magical about that moment ...

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Do You Hate Valentine’s Day?

While it may be true that much of the Valentine's Day hype is commercially based, so what? That's the case with most holidays.  The question is, are we going to let capitalism dictate our behavior by NOT celebrating perfectly wonderful things, like love? And unlike some holidays, there actually is some kind of grain of truth in this one.  Valentine's Day is connected to love.  What is now Valentine's Day was said to have started out as the Roman festival of Lupercalia, which celebrated the rituals of spring and ended with men and women being paired ...

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I Never Knew What Date Rape Really Meant

WARNING:  Possible triggering topic.  If you are sensitive to SEXUAL ABUSE TRIGGERS do not read further. What I mean is, I (and plenty of clients I have worked with) have the capacity to know about something and also not be fully conscious of what's going on AT THE SAME TIME.  I guess it's really not that mysterious. It's called DENIAL.  And, yet, when I become aware of something that I was previously UNaware of, it always seems to blow my mind.For example, I used to think that date rape was literally when someone went on a date and then at the end of the ...

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I’ve Made A Big Decision….To Tell My Story!

And in some ways that is true - I HAVE been very transparent and posted blogs over the years about some very, very personal things!   But now, I'm talking about a whole other level of real-ness.  SENSITIVE TOPIC WARNING:  I WILL BE TALKING ABOUT MY OWN TRAUMA WITHOUT GIVING ANY DETAILS.  IF YOU KNOW YOURSELF TO BE SENSITIVE TO THIS, YOU MAY OPT NOT TO READ WHAT COMES NEXT.  I didn't even know this about myself until about 4 years ago.  I went to a weekend workshop that involved a lot of non-sexual nudity.  Great, I thought, I'm all ...

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How To Find Safety

Today, as we here in America are all still living in the place of limbo with the future of our country, I realize that what's most important to talk about is how to be okay with that.  Or rather, not only how to be okay with being in limbo, but also how to be okay no matter what the outcome.  No mater who wins or loses the election.  No matter what our individual and collective futures hold.   What I have been practicing for years is mostly how to be at peace in my own days.  I do care about what's happening in the world and have ...

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How To Be Present Aka How To “Stay In The Middle”

I mean, before this particular client gave it a name, I was already realizing it was a really good thing to do at this time in history and already practicing it on my own.  It's not a new technique.  It's an old one.  Yet, as I'm sure many of you would agree- it's easier said than done.  "It" is simply the act of being Present.  For those of you that don't practice with me in person, it is my current go-to, mini meditation.  I often use it at the beginning of my sessions, including the group sessions.   Here's how it ...

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I Predicted A Baby Boom

...that I was wrong about that, at least in the U.S. What has happened is that in "high income" countries like the U.S., requests for birth control have increased, and there is a 300,000 to 500,000 decrease in the number of births predicted over the coming year.   In less wealthy countries, however, women have been cut off from birth control since April of 2020, and apparently in some of those countries, like India and Indonesia, there is an increase in pregnancies. However, none of these statistics actually speak to the issue of whether couples are having ...

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