How To Make Life Less “Sticky”

In our house, we like to use a particular kind of handmade lemon soap.  The other day I was in the shower and I noticed the soap was getting very thin- like, it was time for another bar soon.  And when I got out of the shower I actually remembered to put a new soap UNDER the tiny piece of soap.  Many times I keep forgetting to put the new soap in the soap holder, and do you know what happens then?  The old soap gets so thin and STICKY that it clings to the soap dish until it is really hard to even pick the old soap up anymore without breaking it in ...

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Waking Up With Love (Sorry, I Don’t Mean Morning Sex)

Yesterday I woke up- or should I say got woken up- very early.  I think it was 4:30am. It was just barely light enough in the sky for me to see the outline of my Beloved, with our kitten Moishe perched upon his shoulder.  Moishe's cute little head and ears outlined in the morning dawn light.  My Beloved was stroking my hair.  It was a lovely sight to wake up to, and the minute I opened my eyes I was filled with love.I asked my Beloved "How do you feel?" as he had gone to bed the night before worried that he might be coming down with something.  And his reply, "Like ...

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Meetup Is Not A Dating Site

As you probably know, most of my newsletters are all warm and sunshine-y.  This one - not so much. I want to be kind, I always want to be kind.  AND, I want to publicly say that in my experience it is not uncommon for someone to "hit on" me on Meetup. Or LinkedIn, for that matter, which seems even more out of line in my opinion.  Nor FaceBook. Or, Instagram.  You get the picture. Why do people go on Meetup?  To meet UP, right?  Does that ALWAYS mean they are going to find a new partner?  It absolutely does not.&nb...

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What I Learned From My Kitten Today

This morning I was on a call with my business coach.  Her doorbell rang, and she excused herself to go answer it, since she was the only one in the house.   I happened to have our new kitten Moishe ("Moy-she", means Moses in Hebrew) sleeping on my lap.  Looking down at him, I was patting him while waiting for my coach to come back, and noticing all the cool patterns of color on his coat.  He's mostly black and white, but I saw on the top of his head a patch where his fur was black with just a few white hairs scattered here and there.  And ...

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Can Loss Be A Gift?

Last Saturday I was about to give a 3 hour Sacred Lingam Massage workshop, so I went to get my nails and toes done beforehand.  While I was waiting for my nails to dry, I got a phone call from a number right in town.  I knew there were no workshop participants from Milton, so I let it go to voicemail.  I later found out it was the Animal Control Officer.  You probably know where I'm going here.  I called her back and she told me that our beloved kitten who hadn't even had a chance to turn one yet had been found dead in the neighbor's yard.  It was shocking at first ...

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Do You Hate Valentine’s Day?

While it may be true that much of the Valentine's Day hype is commercially based, so what? That's the case with most holidays.  The question is, are we going to let capitalism dictate our behavior by NOT celebrating perfectly wonderful things, like love? And unlike some holidays, there actually is some kind of grain of truth in this one.  Valentine's Day is connected to love.  What is now Valentine's Day was said to have started out as the Roman festival of Lupercalia, which celebrated the rituals of spring and ended with men and women being paired ...

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The Power Of Love

More specifically, I received some news from a colleague that I had been working on a project with for the past few months which left me feeling sad, angry, and betrayed.   If I'm to be honest:  I did all the usual things I do when I have a conflict with someone else, (which isn't that often, thank Goddess).  I cried, I made up stories about the other person's intentions, had revenge fantasies, thought of a few choice words for my colleague, judged the other person, felt like a victim, told myself I was foolish for being so trusting, you know the ...

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Has Your Passion Worn Off?

I've heard this not only from clients, but also from a number of therapists and coaches, acknowledging the drop off in passion that is "normal" for couples to experience.   Hell, I've even been known to say it myself! But guess what?  I have some GREAT news about this! It doesn't HAVE to be true.   Think about it.  When you first met each other, everything seemed magical, right?  You probably felt "butterflies in your stomach".  You were under the spell of this new relationship.  And every time you saw each other, ...

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Are You Connected?

Today's topic, CONNECTION can be defined, according to yours truly, as "Consciousness joining with Itself."   You may or not know this about me...I am a channel.  When I'm in the zone, I download information directly from the Divine Itself.  I downloaded that definition from God/dess as I was narrowing down my values to write my business plan, years ago.  More accurately, I could say, that's the definition of "connection" according to God/dess. Going back even more years, when I became an exotic dancer to pay for Life Coaching school, one of ...

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When Is Striving To Do Better Too Much?

So far, it's been really great, and I'm a "good student", meaning I'm following her advice, and it's working to help grow my business! The past couple of weeks, I've been working my "CEO Schedule" harder than ever.  And I'm pretty sure (okay, sure) I got a bit overzealous.   Putting myself and my work out into the Universe in a bigger way than ever has left me feeling raw and vulnerable at times.  If you've ever done this sort of thing, you'll know, it can be scary stuff! And, one morning this week as I was coming back from a bike ride, I ...

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