Bees And Wedding Preparations

Love.  That's what bees and wedding preparations have in common. Let me explain. First of all, I AM getting married in about a month- on August 22nd, which according to my friend the numerologist is an EXCELLENT day to get married!  The planning of the wedding started out being a wee bit stressful.  I got divorced 20 years ago, and married before that 29 years ago.  I guess I forgot how many moving pieces there are to planning a wedding!   But then I realized- hey, why am I letting this process stress me out?  It is a ...

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Polyamory Is Like Ice Cream

I mean, if you're the kind of person like I am, who loooooves ice cream, you may find it's kind of hard to pick a flavor, right?I'm a person that loves variety.  I like to order different things on a menu, even if I've had certain dishes at a particular restaurant and loved them.  I like to dress in one style one day and a totally different style the next.  And when it comes to ice cream, since it is my absolute favorite dessert on the planet, it can be hard for me to pick just one flavor for a cone.  Back in my younger days, when I could afford ...

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How Kink Changed my Life

Full transparency: I wrote the following about 5 years ago, when I was leaning in a submissive direction in my BDSM play, which is not the case now.  However, some weeks when I sit down to write, there just hasn't been any obvious thing that wants to move through me, and this is one of those times.  And, what you're about to read is educational and interesting.  If you like that sort of thing.Trigger warning:  if you tend to get upset by hearing about the use if kink (power and control play) that involves physical pain, do not read.&nb...

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Mindset Is EVERYTHING!

Did you ever think about just how much mindset affects you?  I mean, we hear it all the time, right?  "Mindset" is a big buzz word these days.  And it's not that I doubted how important it is.Yet, the other day it was abundantly clear to me just how important it is. Over the weekend, I had a mission to finish painting my beehives as I am preparing to receive the packages of bees in a few weeks, and I need to be ready!  (Squeee!) I'd already put all the coats of white paint on them, and my last task was to stencil them.  I'm ...

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What If You Were A Newborn?

Yes, I'm still a bit obsessed with our new kitten- in a good way.  ;)The other day I was taking a work break and gazing down at him in my lap.  I could kinda smell his "cat food breath", which strangely smells a bit like fish even though his food is poultry flavored.  And I realized that even though that smell is kinda gross, it doesn't affect my love for him. I see his gorgeous eyes, his perfectly placed whiskers and his delicately painted paws. I marvel at every little detail of his slowly growing body and personality.  I don't complain about his breath, critic...

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How To Make Life Less “Sticky”

In our house, we like to use a particular kind of handmade lemon soap.  The other day I was in the shower and I noticed the soap was getting very thin- like, it was time for another bar soon.  And when I got out of the shower I actually remembered to put a new soap UNDER the tiny piece of soap.  Many times I keep forgetting to put the new soap in the soap holder, and do you know what happens then?  The old soap gets so thin and STICKY that it clings to the soap dish until it is really hard to even pick the old soap up anymore without breaking it in ...

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Who’s The Best Tantra Teacher?

Like I said, I'm a great Tantra teacher, but I'm not the best. I have a number of colleagues that are great Tantra teachers, but it's not them either. The Divine is the best Tantra teacher there is. Whatever you call it, God, Goddess, God/dess = the best possible teacher of Tantra and the one I've undoubtedly learned the most from. (And, plan to continue learning from.) In case you're not familiar, Tantra is an ancient healing art that originated so long ago no one really knows where, when, or how. The word Tantra in Sanskrit means "a weaving together". While you ...

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Waking Up With Love (Sorry, I Don’t Mean Morning Sex)

Yesterday I woke up- or should I say got woken up- very early.  I think it was 4:30am. It was just barely light enough in the sky for me to see the outline of my Beloved, with our kitten Moishe perched upon his shoulder.  Moishe's cute little head and ears outlined in the morning dawn light.  My Beloved was stroking my hair.  It was a lovely sight to wake up to, and the minute I opened my eyes I was filled with love.I asked my Beloved "How do you feel?" as he had gone to bed the night before worried that he might be coming down with something.  And his reply, "Like ...

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Meetup Is Not A Dating Site

As you probably know, most of my newsletters are all warm and sunshine-y.  This one - not so much. I want to be kind, I always want to be kind.  AND, I want to publicly say that in my experience it is not uncommon for someone to "hit on" me on Meetup. Or LinkedIn, for that matter, which seems even more out of line in my opinion.  Nor FaceBook. Or, Instagram.  You get the picture. Why do people go on Meetup?  To meet UP, right?  Does that ALWAYS mean they are going to find a new partner?  It absolutely does not.&nb...

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What I Learned From My Kitten Today

This morning I was on a call with my business coach.  Her doorbell rang, and she excused herself to go answer it, since she was the only one in the house.   I happened to have our new kitten Moishe ("Moy-she", means Moses in Hebrew) sleeping on my lap.  Looking down at him, I was patting him while waiting for my coach to come back, and noticing all the cool patterns of color on his coat.  He's mostly black and white, but I saw on the top of his head a patch where his fur was black with just a few white hairs scattered here and there.  And ...

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