Are you Ready for This?

I'm no astrologer, and I can tell you that there's big planetary stuff going on right now.  In general, the earth is going through a shift; many of us are aware of that, both through our reading and through our personal experiences.  And, this month in particular, the sh*t is really hitting the fan, culminating in a powerful full moon at the end of the month (the 29th in the U.S., the 30th in some places around the world). So what does all this have to do with you, you might be asking?  Well, first of all, when I say "sh*t hitting the fan", that is not necessarily a ...

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Word of the Day: Compersion

According to the Urban Dictionary, compersion is defined as "a feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure in another romantic or sexual relationship."  Does this sound outrageous or impossible to you?  It's not.  As you've probably guessed by now, it is usually a term used to describe a feeling that can (and does) occur in some polyamorous relationships.  The opposite of compersion is generally agreed to be jealousy. Ah, the green eyed monster, as it is called.  Jealousy, in contrast to compersion, is experienced as an unpleasant emotion rather ...

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Wondering….

I'm still on this theme of questioning things.  Today I am going to try something new:  I am going to wonder, here, about all the assumptions I/we have made about sexuality, sex roles,  and relationships.  Well, okay, not all of them, there are probably too many to count.  Perhaps you would like to read mine and then come up with some of your own.  Or, respond to some of mine at the end of this blog.  In any case, I hope this inspires some orignal ideas in you! I wonder why women traditionally wore skirts and dresses and men pants? I wonder why women started ...

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Radical Thoughts of the Day

Remember the other day I recommended questioning everything?  Well, let's question some more things.  It's fun. How about marriage?  Apparently, more and more people are questioning marriage.  Today, thirty percent of adults in America never marry.  That's higher than I would have thought, how about you?  It's the highest that number has been in sixty years. I'm sure there are several factors involved.  Clearly, one is that cohabitation is not as taboo as it once was.  I'd be willing to bet that another reason is because the divorce rate is so high.  People ...

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Question Everything, Including Authority

My ex-husband and I were both raised Catholic.  So we know what it's like to sit through those Catholic masses with all their rituals and prayers, repeated over and over each week.  In the Catholic mass, there's a part when the priest says "body of Christ" and the parishoners are supposed to repeat it and make the sign of the cross.  Well, apparently when my ex-husband was a little kid, he thought the priest was saying "foddy-a-fice" rather than "body of Christ" (notice how the two rhyme).  Eventually, he figured out what the priest was really saying, but in the ...

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Just Say Yes(tra) to Zestra!

There seems to be this new trend of sex toy companies sending out free products to people like myself, in hopes that they'll try the product out, use it, and then write a blog telling the whole world how great it is!  My friend got a "Magic Banana" sent to her.  (She showed it to me on Skype- no, she was NOT using it at the time- and it looks pretty cool.)  I want a Magic Banana, too.  But I just may have to buy my own, because one hasn't been offered to me.  I did, however, get an offer to try a new product called Zestra. Do understand that I am not the type to ...

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The Art of Mindfulness

I'm sure many of you have heard of this concept of mindfulness.  I first heard of it when I was in graduate school and I read the book Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat-Zinn. (He was, at least at the time, in charge of the stress management program at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center and he is one of those really cool guys who hyphenated his last name when he got married ;) .)  Mindfulness is really being in the moment.  Not in the past, not in the future, simply in the present. Taking in the present moment with all your senses.  For instance, ...

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Can we Really Fall Out of Love?

As with most things in life, the answer is complicated.  It is no.  And, yes.  Let me explain. First of all, I believe we generally think we have the experience of  falling in and then falling out of love.  But, is that how it truly works?  The verb "falling" seems to connotate an experience that is out of our control, as if we are at the effect of something.  As in, the other person is so alluring (and later so disgusting) that we fall.  It sounds out of our control.  And yet, we already know that we create everthing.  So, clearly it is not out of our ...

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Really, do you Know How Beautiful you Are?

As promised, I will get right to saying more about each of the seven main chakras, starting from the bottom of the spine and moving up: 1.  The first chakra is red, and is often referred to as the base or root chakra.  It is associated with survival, security, and safety.  It is also the chakra at work in manifestation and sexuality (more so for women than men, as it's where a woman's yoni is located, although the lingam is located  a little higher up on the body). 2.  The second chakra is located at the belly area, about two inches below the navel.  It is ...

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The Cool Thing About Being in this New Era….

...well, one of the cool things I mean, is that the things that many people thought were hogwash are starting to be scientifically validated.  Last weekend I had the opportunity to have my aura and chakras photographed.  The camera sees the electromagnetic energy and shows what it looks like.  That technology has been around for a while, and I've always wanted to try it, so I finally did.  None of it was really much of a surprise to me, and it was really fun! So, yeah, my aura is mostly blue with some purple.  All the colors mean different things.  I was told my ...

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