Music, Sex, and Cookies
Back when I was in college I used to go to these live music events at that Student Center. It would usually be small, local performers (which in my opinion are often the best ones) doing songs they had written. I remmember one time this guy came with his acoustic guitar and one of his songs was called "Music, Sex, and Cookies". (I'm sorry, acoustic guitar playing singer guy, I don't remember your name, so I can't give you proper credit. If anyone out there knows who I'm talking about, please email me.) I liked the song so much I bought the tape. Haha, now I'm ...
Pre-teens Having Sex?
The other day I was blogging about whether birth control is really necessary, based on what our guides had said one time. What I didn't mention was that, while they were on the topic of young people having sex, they went on to say that it is best for our adolescents to start having sex "as soon as possible". Basically, as soon as they start having an interest in sex. And they specifically mentioned as early as the age of twelve or thirteen. As liberal minded as I am, this gave even me pause. Hmmm, really?
In our society, trying to get our children to wait as ...
Is Birth Control Unneeded?
For some reason, I have always had an innate ability to detect when things I was told did not seem "buyable", even from a young age. I can remember as kid sitting in Catholic church and thinking this in my head: Hmmm, now let's see. There are basically two important women in the Bible. One is The Virgin Mary and one is Mary Magadalene. One is a virgin, and one is a prosittute. Something's wrong with this picture! They're not telling us the whole story.  Back then, I wasn't able to articulate just what was off, but I knew it was something!
Similarly, ...
I See Love Everywhere
Some of you may remember that in the dead of winter, I blogged about seeing a heart in my hot chocolate. Truth is, since I wrote that blog, I've been seeing hearts everywhere. I see in hearts in all kinds of places- mostly in nature. In rocks, leaves, flowers, berries, seaglass, clouds. I guess they could be just about anwhere. I don't believe in coincidences. I DO believe that everything happens for a reason.
What we focus our attention on grows. I focus my attention on love as often as possible. The more I focus on it, the more hearts (love) I see; the ...
Fifty Ways to Stay With Your Lover
I don't know about you, but I get bored with doing the same things over and over. Take food. I get on "food kicks" where I love, love, love, eating a particular food. And then- I don't. Currently it's Caprese Salad for me. It's the same with sex. If you have a long term partner, chances are you have gotten into a sex routine with each other. You know what works. You do it. Over and over....I'm getting bored just thinking about it! So below are 50 ways to get things exciting again:
1. Try having sex at a different time of day than usual.
2. ...
Meditating Together
One of the best things you can do for your relationship is to meditate together. Meditation is a wonderful practice that I strongly recommend for everyone. Ten minutes a day is all it takes.  There are quite a few fabulous benefits to meditation: clear thinking, better sleep, improved mood, increased intuition, more energy, less anxiety- just to name a few. So even if you are single I do suggest that you start meditating every day. If you are partnered perhaps either you haven’t felt as connected as you used to or things are going
great but you want to ...
The Truth About Polyamory
The other day I was thinking about polyamory (something I often do), and what I landed on is that many people hold beliefs about polyamory without having much or any knowledge or experience of it. Below, I will name a few of these beliefs, and shed some light on the true nature of polyamory:
1. Polyamory is all about sex. Well, no, it's not. The definition of polyamory is romantic love with more than one person, honestly, with full knowledge and consent by all involved. The emphasis is on love, intimacy, and relationship, not sex. In fact, by some definini...
Wanna Spice up Your Sex Life?
A couple of years back, when my friend and I were doing the Booty Doctors radio show, we had Hercules Liotard, aka The Pleasure Coach on our show as a guest. Hercules is based in California and specializes in intimate touch, along with sex and intimacy coaching. I think we had him on twice, actually 'cause we like him so much! He taught us how to do vulva massage.  If you've never done it, as either a giver or receiver, I recommend you read his instructions (which I have paraphrased below) and DO try this at home! It is a rich and rewarding experience ...
An “Aha” Moment in a Mundane Place
Sometimes I think I have my most brilliant thoughts on the toilet. I don't know what it is. Maybe it's when I stop doing, doing, doing and my mind has a chance to quiet down. That makes sense.
So last night I got up to pee in the middle of the night. I was half asleep. I think being half asleep helps, too. Shuts off the "monkey mind". And I was just sitting there, thinking absolutely nothing, from what I can remember. And suddenly something that has never made sense to me suddenly did. You know that expression: "The Universe doesn't understand ...