Some Light Heavy Talk
I'm reading this book called Half The Sky. The title is based on an old Chinese proverb that says: "Women hold up half the sky". It's an amazing book. I highly recommend that you all read it. It's about all the oppression that women face around the world, and specifically focuses on the ways that girls are forced into prostitution and raped. Believe it or not, it is not a depressing book. This book doesn't just focus on how men are the bad guys and women are the victims. It gives us all responsibility for creating the world we live in, and for changing it. And it tells many wonderful stories about how a handful of brave people are changing the world....
What to do With a Vulva
Yes, yes, I know we've had a lot of vulva talk lately and I'm still not done talking about the vulva :). Today I'm going to list the same seven parts of the vulva and comment on how to pleasure each part, whether that be self-pleasure or partner-pleasure.
Before doing that, though, I want to say a few general things....
Anatomy of a Vulva
As promised, I am prepared to give you more detail about the different parts of the vulva, below. It's time to de-mystify a woman's body! Here we go, from top to bottom (meaning from below the belly button to the opening of the vagina)....
Let’s Get the “V Words” Straight!
At the risk of sounding really bitchy, I am going to reveal that a huge pet peeve of mine is how the human race in general is so uneducated about female sexual organs. Ah, taking a big breath, and taking some responsibility: I wonder how I and others have joined together in an unspoken agreement to devalue female sexuality so much that many of us don't even know what the sexual parts are called? While that is a huge question which I can (and will) blog about for hours, today my focus is on taking one action step to start to change that reality- a little education ...
So, You Want More Blow Jobs?
That's right guys, I'm talking to you (or, technically, anyone who has a penis). What man doesn't want more blow jobs? I understand, it's not just that you want more blow jobs; in general what men want is more enthusiasm from their partners. So, below are a few things you can do to increase the chances of getting both.
1. Ask for what you want. And that doesn't mean: "Hon, give me a blow job." Nope, turn off. If you ask for what you want by saying something like: "It would really turn me on if you...", you're more likely to actually get what you ...
The Letting Go
I am (in case you haven't heard) one of the world's great criers. I actually like crying. You know those people that never cry? I can't relate. In fact, I don't know how I'd get through life without it. I express all of my core feelings through tears- fear, anger, joy, sadness, and sexual feelings. Crying is a release. Orgasm is a release. Do you see what I'm saying? It feels good. And if I don't do it enough, I can feel that I'm not doing it enough. (Hey, same with orgasm, haha!)
When people don't express their feelings (and crying is an essential ...
The Many Uses of Acceptance
The other day I was sitting in traffic. Well, it was gridlock, actually. (Imagine, gridlock, right here in our little suburban area!) While I was sitting there, I was experiencing calm acceptance of being stuck in traffic. Not that I usually experience calm acceptance in traffic, and I imagine it was because I have been working on just that: acceptance. So, while the traffic jam continued, I had time to observe what was going on around me. (Another thing I've been working on, mindfulness!) I noticed some school-aged kids on the sidewalks. For some reason, ...
Thank You to My Lovers
Dear Lovers of the Past,
Thank you for the experience that we co-created together. Even those of you with whom I didn't even have sex. You were still my lovers simply because we shared love. Our involvement may have lasted for one hour, one year, or much longer. The length of time is irrelevant to my purposes today. Each one of you "happened" for a reason. Many times I did not realize what it was until afterward. That is okay. Thank you for being my partner in learning and growing. Thank you for all the beautiful kisses, caresses, and lovemaking ...
What Makes Someone Good in Bed?
Have you ever wondered what makes some sexual partners a-ma-zing, and others not so much? Well, I certainly have. I mean aside from the obvious stuff, like their personal hygiene is good, you find them attractive, bla, bla, bla. Not that that stuff's not important- it is- it's just not the topic of this blog. What I'm really talking about here is why some people seem to have what I call "that thing" (and I don't mean a penis, although that is a good thing to have! ;)) and others don't.
Basically, I think the answer is very similar to the answer to this ...