Lately I Am Fascinated By….

Of course, this is all part of my larger interest in being part of the dismantling of the patriarchy.  That, I am committed to, both personally and professionally.  No, I am not a man-hater, not by any means.  Nor am I one to point fingers and blame.  However, we've been living in a patriarchal system on this planet for thousands of years, and there are many signs that it is time for that to shift.   It doesn't serve either men OR women for us to live in such an unbalanced world.  Yet over the past couple of years it has been ...

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I Never Knew What Date Rape Really Meant

WARNING:  Possible triggering topic.  If you are sensitive to SEXUAL ABUSE TRIGGERS do not read further. What I mean is, I (and plenty of clients I have worked with) have the capacity to know about something and also not be fully conscious of what's going on AT THE SAME TIME.  I guess it's really not that mysterious. It's called DENIAL.  And, yet, when I become aware of something that I was previously UNaware of, it always seems to blow my mind.For example, I used to think that date rape was literally when someone went on a date and then at the end of the ...

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I’ve Made A Big Decision….To Tell My Story!

And in some ways that is true - I HAVE been very transparent and posted blogs over the years about some very, very personal things!   But now, I'm talking about a whole other level of real-ness.  SENSITIVE TOPIC WARNING:  I WILL BE TALKING ABOUT MY OWN TRAUMA WITHOUT GIVING ANY DETAILS.  IF YOU KNOW YOURSELF TO BE SENSITIVE TO THIS, YOU MAY OPT NOT TO READ WHAT COMES NEXT.  I didn't even know this about myself until about 4 years ago.  I went to a weekend workshop that involved a lot of non-sexual nudity.  Great, I thought, I'm all ...

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A Sparkly Star

Here's a poem I wrote some time ago, that I got the impulse to share today.  Maybe some of you can relate.  We all have different parts of ourselves.                                                                              A Sparkly Star I came with my case of toilet paperAnd my case of paper towelsAnd toddler wipes, to keep the buttocks clean, but of course&...

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Are You Loving Yourself With Boundaries?

Boundaries have been coming up for me SO MUCH lately!  As I raise the bar with my own boundaries- again, defined by Brene Brown as “what’s okay, what’s not okay”- the next opportunity to inquire into and define my boundaries comes up. What I know about setting and keeping clear boundaries is that it is way the hell up there with top ways for us to love ourselves. The first time I heard that, it struck me as odd, or at least as a thought I’d never had before.  And, in time, I’ve come to realize how true that really is. I do recommend giving some ...

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How To Find Safety

Today, as we here in America are all still living in the place of limbo with the future of our country, I realize that what's most important to talk about is how to be okay with that.  Or rather, not only how to be okay with being in limbo, but also how to be okay no matter what the outcome.  No mater who wins or loses the election.  No matter what our individual and collective futures hold.   What I have been practicing for years is mostly how to be at peace in my own days.  I do care about what's happening in the world and have ...

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Has Your Passion Worn Off?

I've heard this not only from clients, but also from a number of therapists and coaches, acknowledging the drop off in passion that is "normal" for couples to experience.   Hell, I've even been known to say it myself! But guess what?  I have some GREAT news about this! It doesn't HAVE to be true.   Think about it.  When you first met each other, everything seemed magical, right?  You probably felt "butterflies in your stomach".  You were under the spell of this new relationship.  And every time you saw each other, ...

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Are You Connected?

Today's topic, CONNECTION can be defined, according to yours truly, as "Consciousness joining with Itself."   You may or not know this about me...I am a channel.  When I'm in the zone, I download information directly from the Divine Itself.  I downloaded that definition from God/dess as I was narrowing down my values to write my business plan, years ago.  More accurately, I could say, that's the definition of "connection" according to God/dess. Going back even more years, when I became an exotic dancer to pay for Life Coaching school, one of ...

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When Is Striving To Do Better Too Much?

So far, it's been really great, and I'm a "good student", meaning I'm following her advice, and it's working to help grow my business! The past couple of weeks, I've been working my "CEO Schedule" harder than ever.  And I'm pretty sure (okay, sure) I got a bit overzealous.   Putting myself and my work out into the Universe in a bigger way than ever has left me feeling raw and vulnerable at times.  If you've ever done this sort of thing, you'll know, it can be scary stuff! And, one morning this week as I was coming back from a bike ride, I ...

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How To Be Present Aka How To “Stay In The Middle”

I mean, before this particular client gave it a name, I was already realizing it was a really good thing to do at this time in history and already practicing it on my own.  It's not a new technique.  It's an old one.  Yet, as I'm sure many of you would agree- it's easier said than done.  "It" is simply the act of being Present.  For those of you that don't practice with me in person, it is my current go-to, mini meditation.  I often use it at the beginning of my sessions, including the group sessions.   Here's how it ...

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