“Extreme Self Care”
Back when The Oprah Winfrey Show was big, Oprah used to feature a life coach named Cheryl Richardson. Cheryl used to talk about a concept called “extreme self care”. In fact, she wrote a book called The Art of Extreme Self Care. I have not read Cheryl’s book, but I...
A Nighttime Gift
Last night I was relaxing at home reading my book after a busy day (read: I was tired) when I got a text from my daughter who was studying for a final exam at her dad’s house. She had been sick the last couple of days, and I’m guessing the only thing worse for a...
More Drama Games
Last week I was talking about some games people play on what is called The Triangle, where all drama occurs. This blog is a continuation of that. Below is a list of more “games” that may sound familiar and how to avoid them. Again, in some cases I have used either...
Gettin’ Some
This week I did some public speaking, and two things really stood out for me. The first was, I remembered how much I LOVE public speaking, and did follow that up with setting an intention to do more of that in the near future. The second, which is really the subject...
Drama Triangle Games and How to Avoid Them
Today I want to talk about what I affectionately call “The Triangle”, this is the place where all drama occurs in relationships. I first learned about this at The Hendricks Institute, where I went to school for life coaching, and have found it a useful tool ever...
Are You Getting Enough “Quality Time”?
I know “quality time” is a cliche that people make a lot of jokes about, but I’ve recently rediscovered how important it is to a relationship. I noticed during my last long term relationship that I was getting more critical of my partner for what seemed like the...
Why do Orgasms Feel so Good?
Basically, there are two reasons. One is the more common reason that most people probably think about when they ask themselves this question. It’s a physiological response. Blood flows to the genitals, both male and female, when sexual excitement occurs, and the...
The Psychology of Monogamy
So the other night we were sitting in our monthly Synergistic Energy Exchange group and I was reading an article about sacred sexuality to the group. (I like to do that lately, put on my sexy librarian glasses and read to the group. I call it “sacred porn”.) There’s...
I Love You, But…
You know that phrase, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you?” That phrase is often used as a preface to dumping someone. However, if you’ve been with your partner for more than say six months, it’s completely normal to feel that way. After all these years, I...
What Healthy Grief Looks Like
I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but our planet is shifting. There are many changes going on, and with those come other things. Such as people dying. (No, it is not just your imagination that it seems like more and more people are dying lately.) And, relationships...