My Space

Nah, I don't mean that popular social networking site.  (I think that's MySpace anyway.)  I mean MY SPACE; ME. Let me explain.  Last night I was sitting on my mat at the beginning of yoga class, and my teacher (my favorite yoga instructor whom I loooove) invited us to use our breath to guide us into our yoga practice, to kind of "fall" into our own space.  She said something like:  "what's going on in the world is not your business, what's going on in your friends and families' lives is not your business, what's going on in your space IS your business".  And ...

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God is Pro-Sex

I have been wondering, what is my exact purpose?  What is the essence of my message to the world?  If I had to boil it all down to one phrase, what would it be?  And I keep coming back to the same thing: God is Pro-Sex.  It’s that simple. In ancient times, most of the world’s spiritual practices connected spirituality and sexuality.  As our spirit guides stated just the other day in channeling: “your sexuality IS your spirituality.” Today, most spiritual disciplines tell us that the way to become enlightened is through controlling or denying the senses ...

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The Energy Stream

Recently I developed a new technique for those moments when I am  having any type of negative thought.  I made reference to it the other day in a blog.  It’s very simple.  I simply imagine a sea of compassion and unconditional love floating toward me, and then I receive it when it arrives. It felt very easy for me to do, right from the first time I did it.  I would even say I was  naturally masterful at it. So the other day I was doing it, basking in the warm glow of the love and compassion I was receiving and I had a thought: maybe I am not really creating ...

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Cycles in Relationships

All of life is based on cycles.  If you really think about it, it’s true.  The days and nights, the growth cycle of plants, the seasons, the tides, a woman’s menstrual cycle.  Women in general seem to be more in tune with the cycles of life.  They tend to go with the flow, and bring themselves into harmony with what is more easily than men.  No judgment here.  Just stating what is.  And as always, I’m talking in general.  Of course there are exceptions to every rule. So how come, if this is true about cycles, that all of life is based on them, we seem to ...

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Sympathy Sex

Many of us are, unfortunately, familiar with it, especially if we’ve been married.  Sympathy sex, as it’s called, is the sex that we have out of a feeling of obligation to our partners.  We have sympathy for their desire to have sex, even when we don’t want to, so we give in. It’s also sometimes called “taking one for team”.  I don’t recommend it, both for the sake of your personal well being and the well being of your relationship. Some of you may be aware that in the “old days” men literally bought women on auction. What most people don’t ...

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Texting Love

Lately I have been working on loving myself at a deeper level.  I have been learning to love myself for like ten years, but now I am really digging my self-loathing out by the roots. Yes, we all have it, or some degree of it inside ourselves, even if we had a "good childhood", even if our parents did a "good job", it doesn't take much for us as infants and toddlers to get the idea that there is somehow something wrong with us, or that we are not good enough. By the way, when I say "learning", what I really mean is remembering Who I Really Am.  I am made in the ...

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Today I Wept…

I have been reading the book Home with God by Neale Donald Walsch.  (Sorry,  Neale, the last time I wrote about you I totally hacked your name, but I figure a man like you will probably forgive.)  It's the last in his Conversations with God series, in which he literally prints word for word his conversations with Source. So I got to the part about how we ourselves create everything in our lives.  I know this sounds hard to believe for some. There is really no man with a long white beard in the sky pulling our puppet strings.  We have free will. We can co-create ...

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Choosing “The Path Less Traveled”

Last week I blogged about whether you might be a “polymamorist”.  Others choose what’s known as “swinging” over polyamory, which is having more than one sexual partner, without the relationship/love component. If you’ve been thinking about either option in your partnership, you should know that opening up a relationship that has been “closed” is a complicated task.  You don’t just talk about it once, say “well, glad that’s done”, and be on your merry way to multi-partnered bliss.  No, it’s more like having that talk about sex with your child ...

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You Might be a Polyamorist IF…

No, this is not like one of those jokes about rednecks. (“you might be a redneck IF”...).  I’m serious.  Polyamory is a word that was invented in the 90's to describe the practice of having a romantic relationship with more than one person at a time.  Why would anyone choose to be polyamorous in the first place, and is it something you’d like to pursue yourself? To give a few ideas, you may want to explore polyamory if: -Monogamy has always felt unnatural for you. -You want to be able to act on the deep attractions that come up for other people, not ...

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Dance Recital Musings

Today I went to my daughter’s dance recital.  Normally, I don’t look forward to three hours of consecutive entertainment, and today was no different. (I want to see my kid dancing, just not her and everyone else’s kid, for so long ) But even in the midst of my bad attitude, I started having some positive thoughts. As I was sitting there looking into the faces of all these children, I started to think: each one of these human beings in front of me is one tiny wave on the sea of God.  Each one of these kids represents a different flavor of God(dess). Some were ...

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