The “Him-Shaped Void”

A few months ago, I read a book called Dear Lover by David Deida.  In it he talks about a concept he called the him-shaped void.  In my mind, I changed it to the man-shaped void, so that’s what I prefer to call it now.  I’m quirky like that. Regardless of what it is called, I was experiencing it.  My “friend with benefits” from last year left a man-shaped void in my heart and body that just wasn’t going away.  David Deida describes it in a way that makes it sound like an actual physical/energetic thing, not just a construct of the mind.  And based on my ...

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When Sparks Don’t Fly

There comes a time in any long term relationship when sex is just not the same as it used to be.  One day, it seems you wake up, and you realize the sparks are not flying.  What happened to that feeling that you couldn’t wait to be with the other person?  What happened to those butterflies in your stomach?  Or, depending on how far along this path you are, what happened to your sex drive altogether? Many people, at this point, assume that it is over.  You tell yourself you have fallen out of love with your partner.  You may decide to leave the relationship, or ...

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The Habit of Meditation

Back in my Booty Doctor's days (the radio show my friend and I used to do for men, regarding their sexuality and relationships), I subscribed to Men's Journal magazine.  I thought it would give me some good ideas of topics for the show.  Month after month, there was never one article in there about sex. I couldn't believe it!  I concluded that the magazine owners must be very conservative, and started giving away the magazine each month to my male clients. This morning I was sitting in my office waiting for a client who was running late.  I picked up the latest copy ...

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What You Focus Your Attention on Grows

It's sort of like plants.  If you focus your attention on them, giving them plenty of water and sunlight, they will grow.  So will your "problems".  I put problems in quotation marks because, rather than perceiving them as such, I find it more helpful to think of them as "experiences".  We did come here to Earth to feel the full range of feelings, and to have a full range of experiences, including those we tend to call problems.  But sometimes we get stuck in that space.  When that happens, it is the ego getting in the way.  Our souls may have desired to have every ...

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One Night Stand S.E.X.

Okay, I admit it's not as scandalous as the title sounds.  But it is a juicy story, so you may want to read on:  Several months ago I did something I rarely do, I went out dancing.  Not that I don't like to dance- I love it actually, but just don't seem to get around to it that often.  So a friend and I went out.  It was a nice place with a bar where you could get food and drinks. We met up with a guy.  A married guy.  And also, I should say, a very ordinary seeming guy at first glance.  He was not particularly good looking, and he was kind of on the short side ...

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You are Three in One

If you have been paying attention to things, you may have noticed there is something to the number three.   Three is the significant number in the Holy Trinity, for instance.  And it is also the number of parts you have as a human being.  You are three- mind, body, and spirit- in one human being. Many seem to think that the path to enlightenment is through getting more in touch with the spirit (or soul) part of you.  While it is true that most of us have lost touch to some extent with that part of us, true enlightenment comes from a balance of the three parts. ...

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S.E.X. Maniacs

"We're constantly having sex over here", our spirit guides said to us one day during channeling.  Wow, what  a bunch of sex maniacs, I thought to myself.  Sounds great.  Wish I were over there! That was a while ago.  I now realize two things I didn't know then: 1.  They're constantly having S.E.X. over there, not sex over there.  As in, Synergistic Energy Exchange, as in two or more working cooperatively together to exchange energy. 2.  We're constantly having S.E.X. over here too.  As in, we are constantly exchanging energy, whether we know it or not.   ...

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I Said Whaaat?

One day not too long ago I was sitting with a client whom I've been seeing for years.  We were talking about crying.  And suddenly I found myself saying something that I didn't even know was true. (I have this experience sometimes; I believe it is non-physical speaking through, for the highest good of the person I am speaking to at the time.  I do recommend asking for help from your non-physical friends whenever you feel at a loss for words.)  I told her that people can express any of their five core feelings through tears. Just a little background, researchers have ...

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The Four Clairs

As promised, today I am going to talk about the "four clairs".  The four clairs are the four ways that we can receive information from non-physical.  They are:  clairvoyance, claircognizance, clairsentience, and clairaudience.  If you're not familiar with the four clairs, this may sound far out.  But chances are you have either experienced these things yourself, or know someone who has. For instance, have you or anyone you know ever had the experience of having a body sensation and knowing something was "wrong"?  One of my good friends has this experience fairly ...

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You Are Never Alone

This is the phrase our spirit guides say to us nearly every time during channeling sessions at our weekly meditation group.  There are several reasons why this is true. First off, we all have spirit guides.  Spirit guides are as the name sounds.  They are spirits (souls) whose purpose is to guide us throughout our lifetimes.  We each have three.  Other guides may come and go at different points during our lives, but when we make a choice to come here to earth, part of the plan is that these three guides agree to be with us throughout our lifetimes.  As they like ...

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