My Hot Date
Last weekend, I had a really hot date. With myself. Shortly after my "not pretty" meltdown at the Tantra weekend (see blog titled "It's Not Pretty and it's Soooo Beautiful" if you're interested), it began to dawn on me...the reason I have been single for so long is...
It’s not Pretty, And it’s Soooo Beautiful
I just got back from a tantra retreat. I went to the same(ish) event back in May of this year. During that weekend, there were opportunities to process stuff. I didn't; I was in an "I'm good, I'm happy, I got nuthin'" place. I truly was. This past weekend:...
It’s a Jungle Out There
Some of you know of my recent "experiment": going on a dating website, for the first time in my life. So far, I have been on one date and one almost-date. I think I'm starting to understand when people say things like "trying to find a needle in a haystack" about...
Afraid to “Like” Me?
Through a number of recent conversations with friends, I have come to realize that there are likely a lot fewer people out there who "like" me (on Facebook, social media) than those who like me. And these are real, actual friends I am talking about, not social media...
I’m an Expert Already
Yeah, I've been on a dating site for one week, and I already have some advice for people making profiles on dating sites, and interacting on there. I'm a quick study, what can I say? Here are my thoughts: 1. Be honest...yet not TOO honest, right out of the gates. ...
My Dating Experiment
So yesterday I broke one of my own "rules"; not that I really have rules. 😉 I have been telling my clients for years that they do not need to join dating sites in order to find a partner. All they have to do is get out of the house once in a while. If their soul...
Embracing “Imperfectionism”
It has been years that I have been working on becoming a "perfectionist in recovery"- a former perfectionist who has loosened things up a bit, who recognizes it is okay for me to be less than perfect, and it doesn't mean that I am unlovable. It means that I am...
Advanced Nippling
Yep, I've done it again. Made up my own word. Nippling (v.)- the art of providing physical pleasure via the nipples. It occurs to me that the nipple is an under-appreciated aspect of the human anatomy, when it come to sexual pleasure. Mostly in women, yet some...
Transcending the Ego
This summer has been the summer of intense experiences. Intensely challenging experiences in some ways, which have led to intensely ecstatic experiences. I'm running four to five miles at a time while going at a faster pace than I've been used to. I'm at the...
The Wisdom of Kink
In and out of my professional life, one of the most common couples' issues I see is that one or both partners lose interest in sex. However, I cannot think of one KINKY couple I've encountered for whom lack of sexual desire is an issue. So, what's the solution? ...