Adults Don’t Have to Explain Themselves
My teacher in life coaching school, Kathlyn Hendricks, used to say "adults don't have to explain themselves." I think it was some good advice. And, I'd add that there are exceptions. In this case, I haven't reached out to all of you for about two and a half years. I...
Dance Your Gratitude!
Yesterday, maybe you took a moment to reflect on what you’re thankful for. But why limit it to one day? Why not make it Thanksgiving week — or even a daily practice of gratitude and joy? Discovering Gratitude Through Dance This past Wednesday, I joined my weekly...
I Felt Blissful with the Flu
It may sound impossible — feeling blissful while sick with the flu. But it truly happened, and now I understand the reason behind it. The last time I got the flu was also the last time I received a flu shot, over 20 years ago. I remember lying in bed, feeling utterly...
Could Grief Be Affecting Your Relationship?
I recently attended an all day African grief ceremony. This was part of the MA BlessFest celebration in the Berkshires, a festival that I highly recommend! I had attended an African grief ceremony once before, but this one was much more comprehensive, and I learned a...
The Psychology of Desire in Long Term Relationships
One of the most common concerns I hear from couples in long-term relationships is some version of this: “We love each other deeply...so why has the passion faded?” If you’ve ever wondered this yourself, I want you to know something very important: There is likely...
The Biggest Lie Women Were Told AboutTheir Sexual Prime
Most women believe their sexual prime happens in their 20s.But the truth is this: Many women actually experience their most powerful awakening in their 40s, 50s, and beyond. I learned this firsthand from my own experience. I had started to feel less sexual, had a...
What I Learned About Female Sexual Power From Being a Stripper
Most people assume stripping is degrading for women. My experience was the opposite. Years ago, when I was already working as a therapist, I became a stripper in order to pay for life coaching school. What I discovered surprised me — and it completely changed the way...
Why Pleasure is not Selfish- It’s Medicine
Many people, especially women, feel guilty for having pleasure. Here's the problem with that. Pleasure, for a woman, is the main way her entire nervous system gets regulated. And yet, we've been socialized to think that we must only give to others, and when it comes...
What Orgasms and Sleep Have in Common
There’s a big misconception about orgasms, especially orgasms in a yoni-owning person's body, although this can happen with anyone, and it even ties into conversations around Orgasms and Sleep and how our bodies respond to routine and pleasure. It has to do with those...
What I Am Thinking About Right Now: Consent, Power, and Growing Up
With so much in the news about girls and women being sexually abused and trafficked, I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting. What I am thinking about right now is not just the present—but the past. My own past. At the time, I didn’t label my early experiences as harmful....
Sacred Spot Massage Benefits at Age 60: My Incredible Birthday Story
I Haven’t Even Told You THIS Yet! Back to the story of my sixtieth birthday and my sacred spot massage journey — yes, it was a big deal! What is some of the evidence of that? As I already told you, I had SO much fun that day! My sister gave me a $150 gift card to...
I Had a Big, Fat Squirting Orgasm at 60
It was on my birthday last week. The day I turned 60, and experienced a Fat Squirting Orgasm that made it unforgettable.I keep telling people what a great birthday I had, that it was the best birthday I can remember. And yes, I got to swim twenty laps at the pool...
Now That I’m 60…
Now that I'm 60, I think I might be finally growing up. I know that sounds like a joke, but it takesa LONG TIME to grow up. I’m 60 and Finally Learning What It Means to Grow Up Here are the signs: 1. I started listening to national and international news. It's a...