Don’t Give Yourself Away

I have this little plastic heart in my house.  My daughter gave it to me years ago.  It’s a container.  It’s one of those things I’ve kept not because I really wanted a little plastic heart (I’m a big minimalist when it comes to “stuff”), but for sentimental reasons. ...

“Baggage”- How Much is too Much?

Let’s imagine you start dating a new man or woman, and based on things you are finding out, you start to ask yourself the age-old question: Does the person have too much”baggage”?  In my opinion, the answer is: it depends.  Everyone has some baggage.  I...

More Drama Games

Last week I was talking about some games people play on what is called The Triangle, where all drama occurs.  This blog is a continuation of that.  Below is a list of more “games” that may sound familiar and how to avoid them.  Again, in some cases I have used either...

Drama Triangle Games and How to Avoid Them

Today I want to talk about what I affectionately call “The Triangle”, this is the place where all drama occurs in relationships.  I first learned about this at The Hendricks Institute, where I went to school for life coaching, and have found it a useful tool ever...

Are You Getting Enough “Quality Time”?

I know “quality time” is a cliche that people make a lot of jokes about, but I’ve recently rediscovered how important it is to a relationship.  I noticed during my last long term relationship that I was getting more critical of my partner for what seemed like the...

The Psychology of Monogamy

So the other night we were sitting in our monthly Synergistic Energy Exchange group and I was reading an article about sacred sexuality to the group.  (I like to do that lately, put on my sexy librarian glasses and read to the group.  I call it “sacred porn”.) There’s...