What I Love About Being Poly…
...SO FAR. I mean, really, I haven't even been in a polyamorous relationship that long, it's barely been three months, and I'm overflowing with love for the lifestyle already. Here's what's on my list to date: 1. Today, I was about to take a nap, and I had this...
Incubus and Succubus
The other night some of my friends and I went out to dinner, and the topic of incubus and succubus came up. Historically, these terms have been meant to describe either a male (incubus) or female (succubus) demon having sex with a woman or man while (s)he is asleep. ...
Squirting 102 (Prerequisite: Squirting 101)
I really have a lot to say about squirting. That's what happens with the topics I love, like blow jobs. Today I am going to help you find your way around a G-spot. But first I want to say this: In Squirting 101, I talked about amrita, the sacred name for female...
This is Tantra
There's a part of the story about what happened after my boyfriend and I had a talk the other night that I haven't told you yet. As if it weren't enough that I got to put all my advice about talking with your partner into practice, and then got the payoff of having...
Love Is…On The Sheets!
You know how some people are self-taught musicians? Well, I am a self-taught squirter. Never heard of that? Well, I'm coining a new phrase then. It all started when the man I was dating years ago, in my first quasi-polyamorous relationship, introduced the subject. ...
S.E.X. is Where It’s At
The other night I got to put into practice all my recent suggestions about how to proceed when you have an "issue" you need to talk to your partner about. I did NOT start out by saying we needed to talk. I simply said: "After dinner, I'd like to talk to you about...
Squirting 101
As in any basic course, I will start at the very beginning. There have been some (fairly recent!) scientific claims that the G-spot doesn't exist. In order to talk about squirting, aka female ejaculation, we must first talk about the G-spot. Yes, Virginia, there...
Transparency- The Sexiest Thing on the Planet
My recent blogs about communication have spurred a great discussion with one of my readers. (Incidentally, some people prefer to respond to my blogs privately, and if it would make you more comfortable to do the same, please do.) You know how I was talking about...
“Honey We Need to Talk” (Part II)
Okay, so in my last blog, I went over what not to do (as a woman- or a man) in having a "serious talk" with your male partner. Today, it's about what to do: 1. Arrange a time to talk with you partner. Tell him that you want to talk, what it is about, and when you...
“Honey, We Need to Talk” (Part I)
A couple of years ago, when I was still working as a dancer, I was getting off shift one night, and one of the other dancers asked something like: "So, what are all you day-shifters doing tonight?" I said that I was going home to have a "serious talk" with my...