The “Little Things”
You know when people talk about their first year of marriage together, (or the beginning of living together) and refer to it as an "adjustment period"? Well, frankly, I never knew what they were talking about until I moved in with my current partner. Not that I...
Trapped in the Car…
So, as promised, I am continuing today with "the rest of the story", aka what happened after my boyfriend and I decided to move in together. It was the end of 2013, and as I was still in my coaching program (My Sacred Yes) at the time, I had just gotten some...
The REST of the Story
Before you start thinking that I am Paul Harvey (probably no chance of that, huh?), allow me to explain. You may have noticed, I was telling a story for a little over a year. It was the story of my life as a polyamorous person, in a poly relationship for the first...
“Poly” and “Slutty” Are Not Synonyms
I found myself feeling outraged recently when I realized one of the Meetup groups I was in attracted a man who assumed that, just because the group mostly focuses on polyamory, members of the group are automatically down with the idea of a sexual free-for-all. Let me...
I’m All Out Now
As some of you know, I was recently in a production called Opening Pandora's Box: Stories of Truth and Hope. I got on stage and told my "story", as did six other courageous women. Although I have done television shows, radio, nude modeling and even worked as an...
The Love Lie
I want to address a topic that has been floating around in my head for years. It is this idea that if we "love" someone, then that is it. It means we are to marry that person and then stay- happily ever after- with them for the rest of our lives. And we ask each...
We Are “Those People”
The other night my partner and I decided to get dressed up and go out to dinner. There was a new restaurant we wanted to check out. We were seated in a lovely area at a table for four, with two seats on a bench and two at chairs across from the bench. At first, I...
What Are We Rewarding?
I think my daughter goes to a "good" high school. By that I mean it is a relatively safe, low-violence place where my experience has been that the majority of administrators and other staff there are engaged and enthusiastic about the work they are doing with our...
I’m Baaaack
I've been on "sabbatical" for a while. I haven't had a desire to write. Although, recently, I realized it's not because I truly do not have a desire to write. It's because I was having a competing desire to hide. To hide from being seen in the world. To hide from...
Naked Cuddling
You know how people have "staples" in their diet? Well, I have recently re-learned the benefits of what I highly, highly recommend as a daily staple in your relationship: naked cuddling. First, although it may sound self-explanatory, allow me to elaborate on what...