Soul S.E.X.

There's no doubt that, as human beings, sex can and often does feel terrific- whether it's masturbation, or sex with partners. In fact, it feels so good that often we tend to think it's enough. What more could we want? Human touch, pleasure, endorphins...what's not to love, right? I agree, and there is so much more if we choose it. If we go deeper, to a realm of spirituality and possibilities. Making love with our souls is magical. What if you're not having a great time with sex? Or, you used to enjoy it, and now you're kind of bored? No matter what your ...

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Even in My Snowsuit

I am forever changed. I just returned from a Tantra retreat in Puerto Rico. I went fully into my Divine Feminine and received.  I opened. For years now I have been what I call a "twitcher".  I don't know how long, exactly; a very long time. When I am turned on- and I don't just mean by S.E.X., I twitch.  It starts somewhere in my core and branches out. My twitching has been happening more and more, progressively, over the years.  From present experiences, from memories, from looking at food, from eating food, from expressing deep emotion, from hearing truth ...

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How Kink Changed my Life

I'm being a little facetious here, but not really.  I mean, yes, adding a dimension of kink into my life several years ago as a regular thing has  most definitely improved the quality of my life.  I've decided it is an essential element for me to be truly happy, like exercise, or good food.  Good kink-yesssss! And then recently, as you may know, I've been riding the waves of some heavy duty grief.  I'm grieving two losses at once. You know how people say the thing:  'how can I help', or whatever?  Well, that's a very nice thing to say, right?  And usually ...

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The Intimacy of Kink

In recent discussions, with both myself ;) and others, I've noticed that there's a general assumption that lovemaking is lovemaking and kink is kink. There's an implication that real intimacy, real connection, only happens with vanilla sex: that "lovemaking" is the only sex that involves love, and it has to be sloooow, with lots of looking into each other's eyes, and whispering, and seriousness about the whole thing.  Anybody know what I'm talking about? And no, I'm going to have to say that I quite disagree with this point of view.  That in fact, some of the most ...

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The Truth About Me

Okay, are you ready for the shocking truth?  I love sex.  I love S.E.X. I understand that some of you may be saying, "duh, I already knew that" right now...and yes, it's true that I have not been hiding that fact about myself.  AND, believe it or not, it seems there's a part of me that hasn't/isn't always 100% in essence about it. Once again, you may find THIS hard to believe: For years now, maybe until about 6-12 months ago, I had lost some of my former mojo.  I don't know that I can explain it, exactly.  I'm sure it had to do with a combination of hormonal ...

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When Shiva Made Love to Me

I was awakened in the early morning At 5:00 a.m. to be exact By Shiva embodied His hand on my lower back, firmly Already sending life force energy into my pulsing body Receiving Suddenly so awake, all of my senses heightened He continued to place just one hand on me, touching, pressing, squeezing, making my body come alive Slowly, seductively, relentlessly As I lay on my side, facing away from him The only sound in the room my own moans and whimpers Encouraging me to open through his potent energy He touched my ass, by back, my neck Each touch sending me more ...

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My Declaration

I notice I get a little prickly when people seem to be objectifying me, especially as it relates to my business.  Okay, yes, the name of my business is Synergistic Energy Exchange (S.E.X.), and I happen to be someone whom a lot of people find sexy and pretty.  And- this part I can say subjectively- I have a lot of sexual energy, and I exude it.  Yup, it's all true.  AND, it is not my intention nor my aim in life to either entertain you with my stories about S.E.X. nor provide for you material for your "spank bank." I am  not unconscious enough to believe that I am ...

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How Do I Love Thee?

Oh Slutcracker, Slutcracker, how do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I went to see the Slutcracker last weekend.  I believe it was my third year in a row.  I can't wait 'til it comes out again next year. (For those of you not in the know: via Wikipedia-The Slutcracker is a burlesque, satirical version of The Nutcracker that is the creation of Babes in Boinkland troupe director Vanessa White. It has been performed in Somerville, Massachusetts, and Montreal, Canada. The performance incorporates burlesque and tango dancers, drag kings, hoopers, ballerinas, ...

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Advanced Nippling

Yep, I've done it again.  Made up my own word.  Nippling (v.)- the art of providing physical pleasure via the nipples. It occurs to me that the nipple is an under-appreciated aspect of the human anatomy, when it come to sexual pleasure.  Mostly in women, yet some (about 50%, according to my informal poll) men enjoy it too. Okay, let me just be blunt here.  HUGE GENERALIZATION ALERT:  Guys who are attracted to women,  I know you love the pussy.  The pussy, aka yoni, is the source of most of your personal pleasure.  Yes, I get it. AND, did you know that many ...

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The Wisdom of Kink

In and out of my professional life, one of the most common couples' issues I see is that one or both partners lose interest in sex. However, I cannot think of one KINKY couple I've encountered for whom lack of sexual desire is an issue. So, what's the solution?  Everyone turn kinky?  NO!  It's not for everyone.  (In fact I had one woman who responded to last week's blog by saying that she can't even picture "kink" and "sacred" in the same sentence.  And that's okay.) The solution COULD be, however, to look at what is different in kinky relationships that ...

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