The Truth About Me

Okay, are you ready for the shocking truth?  I love sex.  I love S.E.X. I understand that some of you may be saying, "duh, I already knew that" right now...and yes, it's true that I have not been hiding that fact about myself.  AND, believe it or not, it seems there's a part of me that hasn't/isn't always 100% in essence about it. Once again, you may find THIS hard to believe: For years now, maybe until about 6-12 months ago, I had lost some of my former mojo.  I don't know that I can explain it, exactly.  I'm sure it had to do with a combination of hormonal ...

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When Shiva Made Love to Me

I was awakened in the early morning At 5:00 a.m. to be exact By Shiva embodied His hand on my lower back, firmly Already sending life force energy into my pulsing body Receiving Suddenly so awake, all of my senses heightened He continued to place just one hand on me, touching, pressing, squeezing, making my body come alive Slowly, seductively, relentlessly As I lay on my side, facing away from him The only sound in the room my own moans and whimpers Encouraging me to open through his potent energy He touched my ass, by back, my neck Each touch sending me more ...

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My Declaration

I notice I get a little prickly when people seem to be objectifying me, especially as it relates to my business.  Okay, yes, the name of my business is Synergistic Energy Exchange (S.E.X.), and I happen to be someone whom a lot of people find sexy and pretty.  And- this part I can say subjectively- I have a lot of sexual energy, and I exude it.  Yup, it's all true.  AND, it is not my intention nor my aim in life to either entertain you with my stories about S.E.X. nor provide for you material for your "spank bank." I am  not unconscious enough to believe that I am ...

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How Do I Love Thee?

Oh Slutcracker, Slutcracker, how do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I went to see the Slutcracker last weekend.  I believe it was my third year in a row.  I can't wait 'til it comes out again next year. (For those of you not in the know: via Wikipedia-The Slutcracker is a burlesque, satirical version of The Nutcracker that is the creation of Babes in Boinkland troupe director Vanessa White. It has been performed in Somerville, Massachusetts, and Montreal, Canada. The performance incorporates burlesque and tango dancers, drag kings, hoopers, ballerinas, ...

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Advanced Nippling

Yep, I've done it again.  Made up my own word.  Nippling (v.)- the art of providing physical pleasure via the nipples. It occurs to me that the nipple is an under-appreciated aspect of the human anatomy, when it come to sexual pleasure.  Mostly in women, yet some (about 50%, according to my informal poll) men enjoy it too. Okay, let me just be blunt here.  HUGE GENERALIZATION ALERT:  Guys who are attracted to women,  I know you love the pussy.  The pussy, aka yoni, is the source of most of your personal pleasure.  Yes, I get it. AND, did you know that many ...

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The Wisdom of Kink

In and out of my professional life, one of the most common couples' issues I see is that one or both partners lose interest in sex. However, I cannot think of one KINKY couple I've encountered for whom lack of sexual desire is an issue. So, what's the solution?  Everyone turn kinky?  NO!  It's not for everyone.  (In fact I had one woman who responded to last week's blog by saying that she can't even picture "kink" and "sacred" in the same sentence.  And that's okay.) The solution COULD be, however, to look at what is different in kinky relationships that ...

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The Sacredness of Kink

Yes, you heard me right.  Kink is sacred. Well, let me back up a minute.  For those of you who don't know what "kink" is.  Think "Fifty Shades of Grey", minus the abusive, traumatized sociopath.  Okay- bad example ;).  Think BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism).  Think dom and sub (dominant and submissive).  Got it? Okay, so here's the thing.  Some people, including mental health professionals and even those who say they specialize in sacred sexuality, think kink is abusive.  Let's clear this up.  SOME people, such as the fictional Christian ...

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Life is a Win-Win

I have long suspected that when something is for one person's highest good, it is for the other person's highest good as well.  (Even though, admittedly, it doesn't always seem like that.) Now I am sure. The other day I was doing sacred yoni massage on a woman.  We were really going all out.  I burned some Nag Champa, used my pendulum to clear myself, then we meditated together for a good while.  All of this created sacred space.  Next, I gave her a vulva massage and moved slowly on to the G-spot massage part.  We had decided to call this her "sexual awakening" ...

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Get Your Sexy On

It has come to my attention, over and over again, that we as a species are not having all that much sex.  Worldwide, about 2/3 of us are having sex once a week.  In the U.S., that number is barely over half.  Not to mention that, for most people (asexual and low-sex-drive folks not included), once a week is setting the bar pretty low. How is it that something that is so fundamentally a part of who we are as human beings is so neglected?  Have we forgotten, or never realized, that we ARE sexual beings?  That our life force energy IS our sexual energy?  That if we ...

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A Fucking Good Mood

I am in a really fucking good mood right now.  I mean REALLY fucking good!  The kind of mood where I feel an abundance of energy coursing through my body, I feel love for myself and everyone else, and I am having one creative, fun thought after another.  Yeah, that kind of good mood. I wanted to make a point of announcing my mood in this particular way, as that is how it popped into my mind as I was kind of talking to myself about it.  And then I thought:  "I'm going to write a blog about that."  Not about my mood exactly; about the "fucking" part. So, couple ...

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