Even in My Snowsuit

I am forever changed. I just returned from a Tantra retreat in Puerto Rico. I went fully into my Divine Feminine and received.  I opened. For years now I have been what I call a "twitcher".  I don't know how long, exactly; a very long time. When I am turned on- and I don't just mean by S.E.X., I twitch.  It starts somewhere in my core and branches out. My twitching has been happening more and more, progressively, over the years.  From present experiences, from memories, from looking at food, from eating food, from expressing deep emotion, from hearing truth ...

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Numbers Are Good- For Math

I've been  thinking about how we use numbers to evaluate people a lot.  And it's not a good thing. Numbers for scores on tests.  Numbers for height.  Numbers on a scale.  Numbers for age. And there's always a "good" number and a "bad" number, right? As if these numbers somehow mean something about our worthiness as human beings. My God/dess, there's a literal rating system for someone's attractiveness! "(S)he's a ten". The number that REALLY got me thinking about all this is the: "What's your number?" question.  I don't mean me personally.  I just mean in ...

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Boundaries 101

Boundaries have been coming up for me SO MUCH lately!  As I raise the bar with my own boundaries- again, defined by Brene Brown as "what's okay, what's not okay"- the next opportunity to inquire into and define my boundaries comes up. What I know about setting and keeping clear boundaries is that it is way the hell up there with top ways for us to love ourselves. The first time I heard that, it struck me as odd, or at least as a thought I'd never had before.  And, in time, I've come to realize how true that really is. I do recommend giving some thought to this ...

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You Are My Favorite

I used to have a supervisor at a job years ago that said (to all of the employees under her):  "You are all my favorite for different reasons."  At the time, I thought maybe that was her way of discouraging anyone from ever striving to be her favorite, or of having to admit she HAD favorites. Now, I'm not so sure about that.  You may know, I've been a bit obsessed with Abraham lately.  Last week, I heard them telling about a four-part daily practice that they recommend.  One of the parts is getting out in nature every day, no matter what the weather, and basically ...

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One Big Analogy

Some of you may have seen a picture of my bloody knees that I posted on social media yesterday.  Yes, I did that.  Not sure if it was a great idea, almost took it down, and I didn't.  My point was NOT "poor me", but people seemed to have a strong reaction to it, like it was some horrible thing. Honestly, when it happened- I wiped out and hit the frozen earth while I was jogging- all I could think of was how pain was just part of life.  And it doesn't have to be any big deal.  I have mostly been feeling SUPER GOOD...and then I created some pain.  Sometimes the pain ...

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I Am a Rockstar

I just finished writing my annual list of all my accomplishments for 2015.  (This is a practice I began about ten years ago while attending the Hendricks Institute for life coaching.)  This year, I am pretty sure I had a record number of accomplishments written down: seventy-eight!  I'm not sure if this means I actually progressed more in 2015 than I have in any other year, or I have simply gotten better at noticing and appreciating what I've been able to do in a year's time.  And frankly, I don't care which it is.  My general conclusion is this:  I am a fucking ...

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One Never Knows

A few weeks ago, I attended a cultural event that my daughter was performing in at her college. My ex-husband attended also.  We might have driven together- this would not be unusual- except for the fact that we both had prior engagements, separately. He got there first and waited for me to arrive before we entered together.  It was a sit-down event with numbered tables, much like those that would be set up at a wedding reception. We sat at a table near the front.  We were the only ones at our table, until a family of three (mother, father, daughter) arrived.  ...

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The Body Doesn’t Lie

Last week I revealed how I am having a whirlwind romance- with myself.  What I didn't tell you is that just before deciding that, I went on a date with a guy from the dating site.  I know I had said weeks ago that I was done with that; it literally took a month for this guy and I to coordinate our schedules, so I figured: "Why not?  I'll go on one more date before deleting my account." So take note:  I met this guy on the same dating site that I met the other guys- you  know, the ones that didn't impress me, to say the least.  And then just when I thought I ...

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My Hot Date

Last weekend, I had a really hot date.  With myself. Shortly after my "not pretty" meltdown at the Tantra weekend (see blog titled "It's Not Pretty and it's Soooo Beautiful" if you're interested), it began to dawn on me...the reason I have been single for so long is that it is not time for me to have a new partner.  It is time for me to go more deeply into loving MYSELF first. Okay, I do have ONE kinky play partner right now that I occasionally see. (I mean, let's be serious, we're talking about ME here.)  Notice I said "play partner", not boyfriend.  And having ...

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It’s not Pretty, And it’s Soooo Beautiful

I just got back from a tantra retreat.  I went to the same(ish) event back in May of this year.  During that weekend, there were opportunities to process stuff.  I didn't;  I was in an "I'm good, I'm happy, I got nuthin'" place.  I truly was. This past weekend: different story.  I have been challenged lately by a number of current and upcoming transitions in my life.  And not feeling so good, physically or emotionally.  So when invited to share on Friday night, I got real right out of the gates.  And I continued to play full out all weekend. On Saturday I ...

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