Anatomy of a Vulva
As promised, I am prepared to give you more detail about the different parts of the vulva, below. It's time to de-mystify a woman's body! Here we go, from top to bottom (meaning from below the belly button to the opening of the vagina)....
Let’s Get the “V Words” Straight!
At the risk of sounding really bitchy, I am going to reveal that a huge pet peeve of mine is how the human race in general is so uneducated about female sexual organs. Ah, taking a big breath, and taking some responsibility: I wonder how I and others have joined together in an unspoken agreement to devalue female sexuality so much that many of us don't even know what the sexual parts are called? While that is a huge question which I can (and will) blog about for hours, today my focus is on taking one action step to start to change that reality- a little education ...
So, You Want More Blow Jobs?
That's right guys, I'm talking to you (or, technically, anyone who has a penis). What man doesn't want more blow jobs? I understand, it's not just that you want more blow jobs; in general what men want is more enthusiasm from their partners. So, below are a few things you can do to increase the chances of getting both.
1. Ask for what you want. And that doesn't mean: "Hon, give me a blow job." Nope, turn off. If you ask for what you want by saying something like: "It would really turn me on if you...", you're more likely to actually get what you ...
Thank You to My Lovers
Dear Lovers of the Past,
Thank you for the experience that we co-created together. Even those of you with whom I didn't even have sex. You were still my lovers simply because we shared love. Our involvement may have lasted for one hour, one year, or much longer. The length of time is irrelevant to my purposes today. Each one of you "happened" for a reason. Many times I did not realize what it was until afterward. That is okay. Thank you for being my partner in learning and growing. Thank you for all the beautiful kisses, caresses, and lovemaking ...
What Makes Someone Good in Bed?
Have you ever wondered what makes some sexual partners a-ma-zing, and others not so much? Well, I certainly have. I mean aside from the obvious stuff, like their personal hygiene is good, you find them attractive, bla, bla, bla. Not that that stuff's not important- it is- it's just not the topic of this blog. What I'm really talking about here is why some people seem to have what I call "that thing" (and I don't mean a penis, although that is a good thing to have! ;)) and others don't.
Basically, I think the answer is very similar to the answer to this ...
Word of the Day: Compersion
According to the Urban Dictionary, compersion is defined as "a feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure in another romantic or sexual relationship." Does this sound outrageous or impossible to you? It's not. As you've probably guessed by now, it is usually a term used to describe a feeling that can (and does) occur in some polyamorous relationships. The opposite of compersion is generally agreed to be jealousy.
Ah, the green eyed monster, as it is called. Jealousy, in contrast to compersion, is experienced as an unpleasant emotion rather ...
Wondering….
I'm still on this theme of questioning things. Today I am going to try something new: I am going to wonder, here, about all the assumptions I/we have made about sexuality, sex roles, and relationships. Well, okay, not all of them, there are probably too many to count. Perhaps you would like to read mine and then come up with some of your own. Or, respond to some of mine at the end of this blog. In any case, I hope this inspires some orignal ideas in you!
I wonder why women traditionally wore skirts and dresses and men pants?
I wonder why women started ...
Just Say Yes(tra) to Zestra!
There seems to be this new trend of sex toy companies sending out free products to people like myself, in hopes that they'll try the product out, use it, and then write a blog telling the whole world how great it is! My friend got a "Magic Banana" sent to her. (She showed it to me on Skype- no, she was NOT using it at the time- and it looks pretty cool.) I want a Magic Banana, too. But I just may have to buy my own, because one hasn't been offered to me. I did, however, get an offer to try a new product called Zestra.
Do understand that I am not the type to ...
Music, Sex, and Cookies
Back when I was in college I used to go to these live music events at that Student Center. It would usually be small, local performers (which in my opinion are often the best ones) doing songs they had written. I remmember one time this guy came with his acoustic guitar and one of his songs was called "Music, Sex, and Cookies". (I'm sorry, acoustic guitar playing singer guy, I don't remember your name, so I can't give you proper credit. If anyone out there knows who I'm talking about, please email me.) I liked the song so much I bought the tape. Haha, now I'm ...
Pre-teens Having Sex?
The other day I was blogging about whether birth control is really necessary, based on what our guides had said one time. What I didn't mention was that, while they were on the topic of young people having sex, they went on to say that it is best for our adolescents to start having sex "as soon as possible". Basically, as soon as they start having an interest in sex. And they specifically mentioned as early as the age of twelve or thirteen. As liberal minded as I am, this gave even me pause. Hmmm, really?
In our society, trying to get our children to wait as ...