Full-Out Transparency…Part II
Back to my series on transparency via poly dating...when I left off, I had just "survived" the trials of my boyfriend going on his first date. He was about to embark on a trip to Japan for his work, which would keep him away for almost five weeks. We had discussed...
Full-Out Transparency and Nothing Less
Many of you already know that I am in a new, polyamorous relationship with an amazing man! And, even for those of you who are not poly and have no intention of ever being poly, my blogs about my relationship(s) are applicable to monogamous relationships as well. The...
Let’s Talk About the C Word
I know, you think I'm about to write a blog about the word "cunt", a taboo word for a part of the female anatomy. It's not that I'm afraid to say the word cunt. I'm not. Cuntcuntcuntcuntcuntcuntcunt. See?! It's that today I'd like to talk about an equally taboo...
Selfishness Has a Bad Name
Really, I'm serious. We are all told that being selfish is a bad thing, right? Well, I disagree. I think that if we all started to put ourselves first, the world would be a better place. You may be thinking: But what about doing things for others? If we all were...
What’s Your “Learning Edge”?
You may or may not have heard this term, "learning edge". I first heard it when I was in life coaching school at The Hendricks Institute, about ten years ago. My definition of it is basically this: the thing that the Universe is presenting to you as your current...
Musings on the Green-Eyed Monster
The topic of jealousy has been coming up lately, as my partner and I have both been starting to date others in addition to each other. We have each felt a twinge of jealousy at times, nothing major. And I would say that both of us tend to be generally less prone to...
What Are You Grateful For?
Recently, while in California visiting my best friend, I watched this great documentary called "Happy" (they have it on Netflix). The narrator is Marci Shimoff, who has written a number of books on happiness, including "Happy For No Reason", which is funny, really,...
Compersion- Yes!
Tomorrow is my partner's birthday. Well, technically for him, it's his birthday now, because he's in Japan. And even though I can't spend his birthday with him, I am incredibly happy! I am having an amazing, embodied experience of compersion. You may or may not...
New Relationship Paradigm
My blog the other day, "Jealousy of Time", brought up some "yeah, buts" in some of you...understandably so. We have all been taught- by our parents, by the larger society, by the collective, that relationships are a certain way: If you're in a relationship, you are...
“Jealousy of Time”
I had some great questions about "jealousy of time" from a reader the other day. Since I've been writing so much about poly relationships, I assumed it was about jealousy in that context, but it wasn't actually. It was more of a general question. Jealousy of time in...