Are You Getting Enough “Quality Time”?

I know “quality time” is a cliche that people make a lot of jokes about, but I’ve recently rediscovered how important it is to a relationship.  I noticed during my last long term relationship that I was getting more critical of my partner for what seemed like the...

Why do Orgasms Feel so Good?

Basically, there are two reasons.  One is the more common reason that most people probably think about when they ask themselves this question.  It’s a physiological response. Blood flows to the genitals, both male and female, when sexual excitement occurs, and the...

The Psychology of Monogamy

So the other night we were sitting in our monthly Synergistic Energy Exchange group and I was reading an article about sacred sexuality to the group.  (I like to do that lately, put on my sexy librarian glasses and read to the group.  I call it “sacred porn”.) There’s...

I Love You, But…

You know that phrase, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you?” That phrase is often used as a preface to dumping someone.  However, if you’ve been with your partner for more than say six months, it’s completely normal to feel that way.  After all these years, I...

What Healthy Grief Looks Like

I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but our planet is shifting.  There are many changes going on, and with those come other things.  Such as people dying.  (No, it is not just your imagination that it seems like more and more people are dying lately.) And, relationships...