I Said Whaaat?

One day not too long ago I was sitting with a client whom I’ve been seeing for years.  We were talking about crying.  And suddenly I found myself saying something that I didn’t even know was true. (I have this experience sometimes; I believe it is non-physical speaking through, for the highest good of the person I am speaking to at the time.  I do recommend asking for help from your non-physical friends whenever you feel at a loss for words.)  I told her that people can express any of their five core feelings through tears.

Just a little background, researchers have found that there are five basic feelings we all have- fear, anger, sadness, joy, and sexual feelings.  (Yes, sexual feelings are feelings too!) Some researchers say that disgust is a sixth feeling, but since I first learned it as five, I prefer to clump disgust in with fear. All the other feelings we experience are either varying degrees of the five core feelings- for example, I often say that frustration is “anger light”- or combinations of the five core feelings.  A common combination feeling is hurt.  When we experience hurt, it is really feeling sad and angry at the same time.

So, the five core feelings are kind of like the three primary colors.  They are the basic ones, and they can be combined to form different, more complex ones, in various ways.

Back to the experience I was telling you about.  I think I’ve mentioned before, we all know everything already.  Who We Really Are knows it all.  It’s just that here, in this human experience, we forget.  So I guess I temporarily forgot that we can express all of our feelings through our tears.  Until I was telling it to my client.  And it sounded accurate.

Think about it.  Sadness is obvious.  We cry when we’re sad.  Someone dies, we usually cry.  We cry when we’re happy.  Think teenagers at a Beatles concert back in the 60’s.  Ever see those videos of the young girls crying?  Heck. They’re still doing it today.  I know a girl that just cried at a Cody Simpson concert!  We cry when we’re scared.  Well, I do anyway.  And I’ve seen others do it.  And did you ever see someone who cries when they’re mad, or have you done it yourself?  I used to think they were just too afraid to express their anger, but now I realize they are expressing their anger, through tears.  And, yes, even sexual feelings.  I used to know this guy that knew a lot about sex.  That’s a good thing.  We were intimate a few times.  And once when I was having an orgasm, I cried.  I thought it was odd, but he didn’t at all.  He said, “didn’t you ever have an orgasm that made you cry?”  Hmmmm.  I’d like to have more of those!

The next time you feel like crying, and maybe you don’t even know why, I suggest you just let it flow.  Tears are a very effective way to let out all of our feelings, and have other benefits as well.  Did you know your body releases toxins through tears, and also that endorphins (feel-good chemicals) are released in our bodies when we cry?   I say, let the waterworks begin!