The Body Doesn’t Lie
Last week I revealed how I am having a whirlwind romance- with myself. What I didn't tell you is that just before deciding that, I went on a date with a guy from the dating site. I know I had said weeks ago that I was done with that; it literally took a month for this guy and I to coordinate our schedules, so I figured: "Why not? I'll go on one more date before deleting my account."
So take note: I met this guy on the same dating site that I met the other guys- you know, the ones that didn't impress me, to say the least. And then just when I thought I ...
My Hot Date
Last weekend, I had a really hot date. With myself.
Shortly after my "not pretty" meltdown at the Tantra weekend (see blog titled "It's Not Pretty and it's Soooo Beautiful" if you're interested), it began to dawn on me...the reason I have been single for so long is that it is not time for me to have a new partner. It is time for me to go more deeply into loving MYSELF first.
Okay, I do have ONE kinky play partner right now that I occasionally see. (I mean, let's be serious, we're talking about ME here.) Notice I said "play partner", not boyfriend. And having ...
It’s not Pretty, And it’s Soooo Beautiful
I just got back from a tantra retreat. I went to the same(ish) event back in May of this year. During that weekend, there were opportunities to process stuff. I didn't; I was in an "I'm good, I'm happy, I got nuthin'" place. I truly was.
This past weekend: different story. I have been challenged lately by a number of current and upcoming transitions in my life. And not feeling so good, physically or emotionally. So when invited to share on Friday night, I got real right out of the gates. And I continued to play full out all weekend.
On Saturday I ...
Embracing “Imperfectionism”
It has been years that I have been working on becoming a "perfectionist in recovery"- a former perfectionist who has loosened things up a bit, who recognizes it is okay for me to be less than perfect, and it doesn't mean that I am unlovable. It means that I am human. The more I worked toward that goal, the less fault I would find with others, too. It's a package deal; the way we feel about ourselves is the way we feel about others.
I can't say I understand what tipped the balance for me. Maybe it was the little steps toward more and more self-love I have taken ...
When Your Offspring is Wiser Than You Are
As some of you know, I've been taking up jogging recently. Well, truth is, it's not recent. I've been jogging for years, on and off- really slowly, and really short distances...
And then my daughter came home from college for the summer. And she finally got her wish: I've been jogging with her, and I am pushing myself to go faster, and farther. I don't know what it is. She's been trying to get me to do this for years. And now suddenly, I am willing. And I'm doing it. And I love it.
I used to go like two miles on my own, maybe less. Then she got me ...
So THIS Happened
Last week, I went to the dentist to get a crown replaced. Normally, this is not expected to be a painful experience; there was no Novocain necessary, or so we thought. So you can only imagine my surprise when my dentist, not by any fault of her own, ran into a complication that ended up involving quite a bit of gum-bloodying pain. (I promise, this won't get any more graphic than it already has, for those of you with a weak stomach.)
Simply the experience of getting a tooth drilled tends to create tenseness in my body, so when I get dental work done, I usually ...
Life is a Win-Win
I have long suspected that when something is for one person's highest good, it is for the other person's highest good as well. (Even though, admittedly, it doesn't always seem like that.)
Now I am sure.
The other day I was doing sacred yoni massage on a woman. We were really going all out. I burned some Nag Champa, used my pendulum to clear myself, then we meditated together for a good while. All of this created sacred space. Next, I gave her a vulva massage and moved slowly on to the G-spot massage part. We had decided to call this her "sexual awakening" ...
When the Last Straw Happens
We're all familiar with the "last straw" metaphor, right? The camel is at capacity. Not even one more straw will be okay.
What's on my mind today is this: I have experienced the "last straw" in my own body/mind, and have witnessed it happening for so many of my clients. It is at once both a challenging and delightful experience...well, on second thought, maybe the challenge part comes first, and then the delight!
A couple of months ago I had one of these experiences. I was very stressed. I'd co-created some horrid relationship stuff in my life, followed ...
I Talk to Myself
I know you're probably thinking one of two things: either "You're crazy." or "Doesn't everyone?" What I am referring to, though, is not the regular, everyday kind of talking to myself (of course, you won't be surprised to learn I do that too). It's a new kind of talking to myself that I recently invented.
I have started using it whenever I find myself in a funk. Like, I wake up in the morning and I feel kind of blah or low energy, probably not even for any particular reason. Or, a series of things happen during that day that seem "bad" and I find myself in a ...
S.E.X.- It’s Not What You Think it Is
Many of you who've been around me for years know that Synergistic Energy Exchange is not necessarily synonymous with sex. What is S.E.X., then? It's a cooperative exchange of energy between two or more beings. The truth is, S.E.X. is happening all the time even though we don't always think of it or know it when it's occurring. For example, if you and I are sitting in a room meditating together, our blended energies create an enhanced meditation experience and, technically, we are having S.E.X.- with all our clothes on, and while not even touching!...