You’re Welcome
By now you've all heard the common self-love building technique of saying "thank you" (rather than deflecting) when someone gives you a compliment, right? Well, although I do recommend following that advice, this blog is about remembering to say "you're welcome".
Have you noticed that many times when someone thanks you for something, anything, you don't actually say "you're welcome"? I have. Maybe it's gone out of style or something. Someone texts me a paragraph, and within it are the words "thank you". I respond to the text, but ignore the thanks. Another possible response is "think nothing of it" or "it was nothing". Really? Doesn't that invalidate both the person who is expressing gratitude, and yourself for having done a good deed? I used to have a friend that said "think everything of it." At least that was funny. Sometimes I just say "no problem". Well, that is an acknowledgement that the person has thanked me, at least....
A Master of “Time”
I did a quick, down-and-dirty sticky note technique for mapping out my goals in 2105. I highly recommend doing this. It doesn't have to be a big-deal, "serious" thing. Do some breathing or meditation for a few minutes, get out a sticky note, and just let the first three things that come up go from your heart-brain through your hand to your paper. Start to finish, this exercise took all of three minutes. And the last thing that came out for me was: Become a master of "time." (Note: last doesn't necessarily mean least important.)
I put "time" in quotation marks because it is actually an illusion constructed by us so that we have some kind of a sense of urgency to do what we came here to do....otherwise we might spend most of our lives lying around eating bon-bons....well, and maybe one other thing. ;) ...
On Self-Trust
Before we can trust another, we must trust ourselves. If we have made decisions that we regret, betrayed ourselves by not being in our power, or had other experiences that didn't go well in our lives, chances are- even if we don't know it- somewhere inside there lies a belief that we ourselves are not trustworthy. Until recently, I was suffering from this "condition" myself.
One sign of a lack of self-trust is not trusting what your inner voice is telling you. Have you ever had the experience, after the fact, of saying: " I knew it!". Well, yes, you did. And you didn't act accordingly because you weren't trusting yourself in that moment. ...
What’s it Gonna be (Boy), Yes or No?
Hope you liked my Meatloaf reference (above). Surprise! This blog is not really about music. (You probably knew that, huh?) ;)
It is about checking in with yourself about your "yes's" and "no's". This is a really good way to be honoring of yourself, and to make sound decisions, all at the same time. ...
69 Ways to Love Yourself
I know the name of my business is S.E.X. And, I know I just put "69" in the title of my blog. And, what my work is really about is helping people fall more deeply in love with themselves. Only then can we be in truly loving relationships and have truly amazing S.E.X.
The first thing that clients ask me when I suggest we do some work on loving themselves more is: "How do I do that?" So, today, I am going to give you 69 ways to do that:...
Introducing The Re-Frame!
You may or may not have heard of this concept before. If you have, it's okay. I have found that much of life is a process of forgetting and remembering things. Sometimes it is helpful to have another person remind you of something you may need to get back on your radar. (In fact, I've had the thought that maybe that's what we're all here together for, to remind each other of the unconditional love and abundance that the Universe consists of.) Even if you are familiar with re-framing, today, I hope I can be that person for you.
And, if you have no idea of what I'm talking about, here you go:...
Mirror, Mirror
You may have heard the saying: "other people are your mirror"? What that means to me is, other people have a gift for us, even when we may not at first perceive it as such. Other people in our lives are mirroring to us something about ourselves. It can be a hard fact to accept. It seems much easier to simply blame, criticize, and judge. Or that has certainly been the popular way, anyhow. It is not simply that our partner, for example, has an issue, and if it causes problems in the relationship, it is their fault. It is never anyone's fault. Both people co-create every situation, in every relationship, not just romantic ones- for a reason. For both of their highest good, growth, and learning, should we choose to take the opportunity.
For example, there is someone in my life (not naming names here) who has been on a destructive path with alcohol, drugs, and cigarettes, destroying his emotional and physical health. ...
Between Dramatization and Minimization
That's exactly where I want to be with this grieving process.
I started out in the drama zone. I didn't think I was being dramatic, and I was. What I learned is this: because I have literal conscious memories of some of my most horrific past lives, when I was doing my grieving about this relationship, I was connecting in to the energy of those lifetimes. The result? I was depressed, in despair, and completely unmotivated. (If you've ever had a period in your life when you had to force yourself to do absolutely everything, including getting out of bed, you know- it is not fun!) Mind you, this was an unconscious process. I wasn't saying to myself: "Gee, I think I'll connect with all of my past lives in which betrayal and abandonment issues came up for me, so I can feel really miserable." However, whether conscious or unconscious, the result was still the same.
With the help of my non-physical friends, I came up with a new way to do my grieving, which I believe can work for any type of grief you or I may encounter in life. And here are the steps:...