Law of Attraction in Action
I forgot. The good news is, it's been so long (apparently, since I felt really sh*tty) that I actually forgot what happens. The bad new is, it's bad, lol. Then I realized: it's a good teaching point. This is the Law of Attraction in Action (see how that rhymes)?...
In The End….
...we didn't make it. Yes, my first official polyamorous relationship is over. 🙁 I can hardly believe it myself. I'm not gonna lie. It sucks. I don't even like talking about it. But I feel I owe it to all of you, those who have been loyally (and...
It Takes Two, Baby
Whenever there is a conflict in a relationship, you can be sure it is not one person's "fault". There is simply no such thing. You see, we all have unresolved issues from the past, whether they be from past lives or this current lifetime. I don't think all the work...
You Own You
This keeps coming up for me: couples that try to put restrictions on each other, to control each other. Probably because I am such a free spirit myself 🙂 it has always irked me when I hear about this. For example, years ago, when I was still working for a human...
The Major Miracle
Last week, in a blog called "Abandonment Issues + Polyamory = Disaster", I ended with saying that my primary relationship was in need of a major miracle if it were going to be saved. One day, out of total desperation, I decided I needed to see a therapist again. I...
Abondonment Issues + Polyamory = Disaster
As you may (or may not, if you haven't been keeping up) remember, my primary partner and I moved in together the last day of 2013. We were faced with many challenges, and I believe were both internally freaking out about how poorly things were going. We didn't talk...
What TO Do
The bright spot right in the middle of this past winter, for my primary relationship, was the vacation we took to Costa Rica. We had planned it months before, when things were going well for us, not knowing how badly we would need that time together when it came. We...
What Not to Do
The next several months of my journey with my primary partner are kind of a blur. I don't even know where to begin. It was not a pleasant time, in my memory, and I'd be willing to bet he feels the same way. Of course, I'm not saying it was all bad. We still had...
“Kissing Break!”
We interrupt this program to have a kissing break.... More accurately, I interrupt these blogs about the history of my primary relationship to tell you about what we call kissing breaks. Similar to naked cuddling, this is something I suggest that all couples do. Now,...
The “Little Things”
You know when people talk about their first year of marriage together, (or the beginning of living together) and refer to it as an "adjustment period"? Well, frankly, I never knew what they were talking about until I moved in with my current partner. Not that I...