I have a friend who is recently divorced who told me she had a “one morning stand.” I asked her, “ummm, what’s a one morning stand?” She explained that a one morning stand is a one-time hookup that happens in the morning rather than at night.
As you may or may not know, when people get older, they tend to go to bed earlier. (You know… they go for those early-bird dinners at restaurants and then when they go to bed at 8 or 9 pm, it doesn’t seem that early.)
Just kidding about the early-bird dinners part!
Anyhow, since my friend tends to go to bed early and gets up early, she told the guy she couldn’t come over at night, but she could in the morning. This was her foray back into having sex again as a single person. She literally did go to this guy’s house in the morning, have sex, and then leave. Haven’t tried it? Maybe you should — it sounds like it was really fun!
I tried online dating once so I could relate more to my clients who do it. I had a mixed experience myself.
I went on a free site and talked to just a few guys. One of them told me he was polyamorous, but when we went out to dinner, I found out his definition of “polyamory” was having sex with a married woman who was cheating on her husband with him. That’s called cheating, not polyamory. Next!
The next guy looked really good-looking, so I figured, why mess around on the site, I’ll just give him my phone number. But the minute I gave it to him, he sent me a “dick pic.” Oh, my. Next!
There was a third guy that I was going to go on a date with. We seemed very like-minded when it came to polyamory, and we talked on the phone. No “dick pics”! Due to his profession, however, he had no pictures of himself on the site. When he sent me some pictures, I felt no spark, so we didn’t ever go on a date. If I had been attracted to him, however, he might have been a good partner for me at the time.
And that’s the totality of my experience on dating sites. I think, though, it probably usually goes about like that. It’s not easy, no. And some of the time you spend will be wasted.
AND, my friend and I both want you to know that if you do invest some time on there, there are good people out there and available — as long as you use your mind to have a positive dating mindset.
A lot of people say “all the good ones” are already taken. Or, they say that too many of them are dishonest. Or, they all have too much baggage.
Do you know what? If you believe those things, you will prove yourself right. That’s how the law of attraction in relationships works.
Alternatively, you could choose to believe that there ARE some good people out there also looking for a partner or two — and that most of them are honest, open, and wise from their life experience.
When you have faith in healthy relationships and self-confidence in dating, you might just find that you’re right.