Get Your Sexy On

It has come to my attention, over and over again, that we as a species are not having all that much sex.  Worldwide, about 2/3 of us are having sex once a week.  In the U.S., that number is barely over half.  Not to mention that, for most people (asexual and low-sex-drive folks not included), once a week is setting the bar pretty low.

How is it that something that is so fundamentally a part of who we are as human beings is so neglected?  Have we forgotten, or never realized, that we ARE sexual beings?  That our life force energy IS our sexual energy?  That if we shut down our sexuality, or dampen it, we are also choosing to do the same with our creativity- since sex and creativity are both second chakra related?  That since sexual feelings ARE in fact feelings, and feelings are a package deal, that if we dampen our sexual feelings we dampen our other core feelings as well?  That in choosing to neglect our sexuality we are actually LESS ALIVE?

Is that what we really want?!

Oh, I know, you have your reasons, right?  You’re too busy.  You’re too tired.  You’re just not that attracted to each other like you used to be.  You’re single; you have no one to have sex with.

If you’re single, masturbate.  If you’re single for a long time, figure out what’s going on with you and do the inner work so that you can create a relationship in your life.

We’re all busy. Who do you know that’s NOT busy?  Yet, we all have 24 hours in a day.  We all prioritize and spend our time on things that are important to us.  If sex is not one of those things for you, get curious about why that is, and do something about it.

Same with the too tired excuse.  We have energy for the things we choose to have energy for.  Fatigue is RARELY the real reason we are avoiding sex.  I for one can recall times when I’ve been physically exhausted yet suddenly had tons of energy for sex once I connected with my partner.  It’s emotional, not just physical.

Granted, if you have been together with your partner or spouse for a number of years, you are probably not sustaining that hormonal cocktail that created that “in love” feeling you  originally had.  (You know, the one that made you want to fuck like rabbits day and night?)  AND, it’s still entirely possible to feel love and attraction and, yes, even desire for your partner.

If you’re too pissed off, angry, or resentful toward your partner to even THINK about having more sex, then face it, tell the truth about, it and DO something about it.

If you’re still hanging on to one of these excuses, or some other more inventive one 😉 , you owe it to yourself to ask why.  Is it that you’re afraid that if you have sex more often the problems in your relationship will be staring you in the face?  Is it because one or both of you is depressed?  Is it because you really don’t want to be together anymore, but are too afraid to make a change?  Is it because you’re terrified to have the real intimacy that sex can create?

Sex is good.  It is SO, SO good.  If you’re missing out on it, you’re missing out on one of the greatest joys life can provide.  Don’t you deserve to have it all?  (Hint: you do.)