I Am a Gem…And so Are You.

This phrase, and the knowledge that I was going to write this blog, came to me a couple of nights ago.  It was just after a session with a client.  I was tuned in during the session in a way that I have rarely been before in this lifetime.  Sometimes the Universe delivers the goods just to give me a sign when I need it most.  ...

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The Many Benefits of Squirting

My blogs "Squirting 101" and "Squirting 102" have been some of the most popular I've ever written.  Just in case you are a woman and I haven't yet piqued your interest, today I'd like to discuss why a woman would want to squirt.  (By the way, in case you were wondering, all women have the anatomy and therefore the ability to squirt.) 1.  Being the hedonist that I am, the first reason that comes to mind is this:  it feels amazing.  Impossible to describe.  Ecstatic, luscious, freeing...?  These words don't do it justice.  You'll have to try it to find out for yourself!  ...

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Polyamory as a Spiritual Path

Let me first say this:  in terms of one's sexual choices- monogamy, celibacy, polyamory- it can all be a spiritual path.  None is"better" than the others.  The path I am on simply happens to be polyamory. Here are some of the ways in which I see that polyamory is a spiritual path:...

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What’s Your “Learning Edge”?

You may or may not have heard this term, "learning edge".  I first heard it when I was in life coaching school at The Hendricks Institute, about ten years ago.  My definition of it is basically this:  the thing that the Universe is presenting to you as your current opportunity for growth. I have found over the years that it does behoove me to pay attention to what keeps coming up for me.  For better or for worse, God/dess does not give up on us.  If we don't get the learning the first time, it will continue to be presented in less and less subtle ways, until we get it.  I've had some "growth" that felt a bit like being hit over the head with a hammer.  These days, I am able to get the learning before it gets to that point....

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What Are You Grateful For?

Recently, while in California visiting my best friend, I watched this great documentary called "Happy" (they have it on Netflix).  The narrator is Marci Shimoff, who has written a number of books on happiness, including "Happy For No Reason", which is funny, really, because for years before I even knew about her book, I have been saying:  "I love it when I'm happy for no reason."  To me, that's the best kind of happiness.  ...

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Incubus and Succubus

The other night some of my friends and I went out to dinner, and the topic of incubus and succubus came up.  Historically, these terms have been meant to describe either a male (incubus) or female (succubus) demon having sex with a woman or man while (s)he is asleep.  In the Christian tradition, it has also been said that having repeated experiences like this can lead to poor health and even death.  Once again, notice how the church has made sex into something evil, even deadly....

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Squirting 102 (Prerequisite: Squirting 101)

I really have a lot to say about squirting.  That's what happens with the topics I love, like blow jobs. Today I am going to help you find your way around a G-spot. But first I want to say this:...

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This is Tantra

There's a part of the story about what happened after my boyfriend and I had a talk the other night that I haven't told you yet.  As if it weren't enough that I got to put all my advice about talking with your partner into practice, and then got the payoff of having all that amazing S.E.X. with him, I had yet another profound experience....

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Don’t Tell The Story

That's the best advice I've heard all week...don't tell the story.  During channeling over the weekend,  our non-physical friends were talking about manifestation, again- it's one of their favorite subjects.  And they said that my friend and I would manifest what we want much more quickly if we stopped with all the negative thoughts, and with complaining about the aspects of our lives that we don't like.  For example, they said that if my friend gets to work and someone asks her how she is, even if it took her an extra hour in traffic to get there, she may want to just say "fine", and move on.  Or, say:  "Well, I was an hour in traffic, but it was fine."  On to the next thing, which would be letting it go and creating a glorious day for herself.  They further advised that she and I email and text each other frequently, reminding each other not to "tell the story."...

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Who We Really Are

Recently, I was at a charity event where there was a local band whose members were from my high school.  There were people there that I literally hadn't seen since I was fourteen years old.  I didn't know how I felt about it, at first.  Normally it is not the kind of thing that I'd attend.  I've always been of the school of thought that says:  "If I'd wanted to see someone, I would have kept in touch."...

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