I Have to Tell You
I know many of you have been reading my blogs from the beginning of my primary relationship, which started over a year ago now, and were privy to every excruciating detail of the struggles I have had. It's my first real polyamorous relationship, and I/we had some...
A New Kind of Hangover
Typically, people think of hangovers as the thing that they get after drinking too much alcohol the night before. While of course that is a hangover, I have recently coined another new term. I call it the "monogamy hangover". That is the thing that people get after...
My Boyfriend’s Not a Shmuck…
...and poly doesn't suck. It has come to my attention that a number of you, after reading my blogs in which I describe all the most painful moments of my primary relationship, have come to the conclusion that- well, basically, that my primary partner is a schmuck. ...
He Slept With “Jane”…
...and I am fine. Some of you who have been following my blog right along already know who Jane is. She's the woman I gave the fake name to that my partner did some withholding about. That triggered the f*ck out of me for various reasons in the past. Things had been...
The Big Projection
Do you know what projection is? Being a therapist and life coach, I see it often. It is the unconscious defense mechanism that people use when they take some part of themselves, project it onto someone else, and notice it in the other. Lately, it's been coming to me...
On Female Bisexuality
Just the other day I had yet another conversation with a friend who said: "I used to think I was a lesbian." I can't tell you how many women my age have told me that same thing. And I can relate, because there was a period of time during which I thought I was a...
My Latest Adventure, Part III
When I left off, my partner and I had just agreed to wait to talk again, as we had both been really angry the night before. The next morning we were both feeling ready to talk again. We created sacred space, and got to it. I won't bore you with the details, but we...
My Latest Adventure, Part II
So there we were, still at this weekend event with tons of attractive women all around my partner, and I was trying my best to get un-triggered and get back to having fun. It wasn't long, though, before something else happened that brought up all my fears and...
My Latest Adventure
It's been a while since I've written about my latest adventures in polyamory .(Or should I say "hybrid non-monogamy"? Please read my last post called "The Purification of Swinging" for more info!) My primary partner and I had been moving along quite nicely with...
The Purification of Swinging
Over the last year or so, having been involved in the "polyamory" community in the Boston, MA area, I have made some observations about the use of terms commonly used to describe non-monogamy. I have looked up some definitions (below) on Wikipedia, just so that we're...