Polyamory as a Spiritual Path
Let me first say this: in terms of one’s sexual choices- monogamy, celibacy, polyamory- it can all be a spiritual path. None is”better” than the others. The path I am on simply happens to be polyamory.
Here are some of the ways in which I see that polyamory is a spiritual path:
1. Letting go of the sexual taboos. Reclaiming our full juiciness as sexual beings, which we have given up largely due to religious views on sexuality and/or sexual trauma, is part of spiritual growth. In polyamory, we acknowledge not only that we are sexual beings and that it’s natural and good, we also acknowledge that our sexual desires go beyond one other human being. This is not true for every human being. It is true for poly people and for many non-polyamorous people as well.
2. Although it’s hard to separate out love and sex, I guess I just did ;). Another way that polyamory is spiritual is that it allows for more love in one’s life. Just as I do not have only one friend that I love, I do not need to choose only one sexual partner to love.
3. As a person who’s chosen polyamory, I have engaged in years of meditation and self-reflection in order to arrive here. Meditation allows me to release resistance (ego, fear) so that my soul can express itself too. I have intentionally listened to my soul, allowed my soul to penetrate further and further into my body. To the point where I can, if I set the intention and allow the time and space for myself, hear the desires of my soul. One of the deep desires of my soul is to love more than one partner. My soul is sitting more comfortably in my body now that I have acknowledged that desire.
4. Polyamory multiplies the opportunities for spiritual growth. In the school of relationships, polyamory is the Advanced Placement of relationship curriculum. Relationship itself is a spiritual path. When two people are in love, the shadow made more visible by the light of their love is available to be explored and loved. With polyamory, the opportunities to grow in this way abound. Nothing can push buttons like polyamory! (Ah, did I mention it is not for the feint of heart?)
5. There is the opportunity also in polyamory to transcend the illusion of separation and embrace the truth of oneness. You have heard it: we are all one. In polyamory, I sometimes like to take my thinking to the extreme, like so: I am Source. Source is me. You are Source. Source is you. If my beloved has a relationship with “another”, it’s not truly another after all. It’s simply a different version of Source expressing itself through human form. And what place does jealousy have there?