Polyamory as a Spiritual Path
Let me first say this: in terms of one's sexual choices- monogamy, celibacy, polyamory- it can all be a spiritual path. None is"better" than the others. The path I am on simply happens to be polyamory.
Here are some of the ways in which I see that polyamory is a spiritual path:...
Compersion- Yes!
Tomorrow is my partner's birthday. Well, technically for him, it's his birthday now, because he's in Japan. And even though I can't spend his birthday with him, I am incredibly happy! I am having an amazing, embodied experience of compersion. You may or may not know that compersion is a word used in poly circles to describe the joy that comes from seeing your partner enjoy his freedom, basically. And that's what I'm high on today....
Incubus and Succubus
The other night some of my friends and I went out to dinner, and the topic of incubus and succubus came up. Historically, these terms have been meant to describe either a male (incubus) or female (succubus) demon having sex with a woman or man while (s)he is asleep. In the Christian tradition, it has also been said that having repeated experiences like this can lead to poor health and even death. Once again, notice how the church has made sex into something evil, even deadly....
This is Tantra
There's a part of the story about what happened after my boyfriend and I had a talk the other night that I haven't told you yet. As if it weren't enough that I got to put all my advice about talking with your partner into practice, and then got the payoff of having all that amazing S.E.X. with him, I had yet another profound experience....
Love Is…On The Sheets!
You know how some people are self-taught musicians? Well, I am a self-taught squirter. Never heard of that? Well, I'm coining a new phrase then.
It all started when the man I was dating years ago, in my first quasi-polyamorous relationship, introduced the subject. Unbeknownst to me at the time, one of his other partners was a squirter, and he thought it was pretty cool. So he started showing me porn with women squirting. Prior to that, I had heard of it, but hadn't actually seen any squirting....
S.E.X. is Where It’s At
The other night I got to put into practice all my recent suggestions about how to proceed when you have an "issue" you need to talk to your partner about. I did NOT start out by saying we needed to talk. I simply said: "After dinner, I'd like to talk to you about how we can..." My partner immediately thought it was "something bad". What is something bad? Breaking up with someone is all I can think of. And it was certainly not that! In any case, my newest suggestion is to tack on: "it's nothing bad" at the end of the sentence....
Squirting 101
As in any basic course, I will start at the very beginning. There have been some (fairly recent!) scientific claims that the G-spot doesn't exist. In order to talk about squirting, aka female ejaculation, we must first talk about the G-spot. Yes, Virginia, there really IS a G-spot, and it squirts!...
Stacking the Odds in Your Favor
Having and keeping clear agreements (or, changing agreements up front) is essential to having a successful relationship, any type of relationship. In poly relationships it is vital.
My new partner and I have very few agreements right now, since we're just starting out. So far we have agreed that:...
What Polyamory is Not
One of my main passions in life lately has been polyamory- not just because I am newly in a polyamorous relationship (although I am passionate about that :)), also because I am just absolutely fascinated with learning about all aspects of it. Learning about polyamory from the perspective of being in a polyamorous relationship is quite different than learning about it before being in one. For me, it is similar to when I thought I knew what to expect about having a child, simply because I had spent a lot of time with my nieces and nephews. Ha!...