You Know You’re Having Good Sex When…
...your entire body and mind is so completely relaxed afterward that you feel like you just got a full-body massage.
...after it's over, you both break out into a fit of laughter that feels like it may never end.
...you cry during sex, in a good way.
...you are so loud that you are afraid the neighbors are going to call the police about a possible attempted murder going on next door....
Warning: Rant about Ranting Ahead
As those of you who read my blog regularly know, I rarely go on a rant about anything....and I feel once coming on. Just sayin'
This particular rant got triggered by a post I read the other day, in which a Facebook friend of mine (whom I don't know personally) stated that she was "curious" about the poly lifestyle and then went on to judge it as being not only morally wrong but inferior to the monogamous lifestyle. First of all, let's call a spade a spade: "curiosity" and judgment are two very different things.
I'm not saying this judgment goes one way. I have seen those that are into polyamyory judging the monogamous lifestyle as well. I myself am guilty as having presented polyamory, or at least non-monogamy, as being the "natural" way for all of us. I have since changed my mind about that, but nevertheless- I said it....
Sweet Spots Happen- Part II
So then last weekend was when I landed on the name for where my poly partner and I are at:Â the "sweet spot".
Let me back up a bit. I left off last week telling about our recent round two of concealing, pain, mistrust, revealing, recommitting to transparency, and trust. Then there was more harmony. And then we went away for a long weekend of learning and adventure. By Sunday night, I was lying in our tent, freezing my cute little ass off, and simultaneously blissed out. (Anyone who knows me knows that I hate being cold, so if I was really happy and really freezing at the same time, that means I was really f*cking happy!) And I told my partner that I felt like we had really hit a "sweet spot" in our relationship. He agreed....
Word of the Day: Come
Have you ever wondered just exactly what it means when someone says the word "come", in reference to having an orgasm?
Actually, let me back up here a minute. You've probably noticed I did not spell "come" like this: "cum". I really don't like that spelling of it. To me, it cheapens the whole experience and does not describe what is really happening at all.
Also, before I get into what it means, let's have a review about Who You Really Are. You are a radiant being. You are a grand soul. You are God/dess embodied. Got it? ;)...
On Going Down
Let's talk about oral sex. One of my favorite topics, actually. :)
How about you? Do you like it? Do you like receiving it? Do you like giving it?
Recently it has been on my radar that plenty of people, both men and women, do not think they are particularly good at it, and do not enjoy it much.
I think part of the problem here is that they are placing too much emphasis on the technique, seeing it as a "job" and not seeing it as something that can be fun for themselves. (Really, we should change the name "blow job" to something else....any suggestions?)...
What if Affairs Were a Thing of the Past?
What if the only parts of love "affairs" were the good parts that I talked about in my last blog?
What if those whose souls truly, deeply wanted to be monogamous with each other chose that, and the rest chose polyamory?
What if those "affairs" weren't really affairs anymore, and were simply loving another person in addition to the partner(s) we already loved?
What if people learned to trust themselves and each other?
What do you think the world would be like if all those things came to pass?...
What’s so Bad about a Love Affair?
I know there is a lot of judgment out there about people who have affairs. I've even judged myself and others for having them.
And, I'd like us to rethink the whole thing. I'm not saying that people should have more affairs, or even that they are not "wrong" in the sense that the people involved are out of integrity.
I'm saying let's take a step back and look more closely at just what a love affair is. Why are people so drawn to them? What happens to the two people involved in an affair?...
Same-Sex Attraction
I think it's about time we started to admit that we are attracted to one another. People are attracted to one another. Yes, I know there is such a thing as being heterosexual. That's not what I'm talking about. What I'm saying is everyone, or just about everyone, is attracted to those of the same sex and the opposite sex, to an extent.
What is an attraction, anyway? Does it have to mean: "I want to have sex with you?" What if we simply defined attraction as being lit up in the presence of another person?  ...
The Many Benefits of Squirting
My blogs "Squirting 101" and "Squirting 102" have been some of the most popular I've ever written. Just in case you are a woman and I haven't yet piqued your interest, today I'd like to discuss why a woman would want to squirt. (By the way, in case you were wondering, all women have the anatomy and therefore the ability to squirt.)
1. Being the hedonist that I am, the first reason that comes to mind is this: it feels amazing. Impossible to describe. Ecstatic, luscious, freeing...? These words don't do it justice. You'll have to try it to find out for yourself! ...