Meditation Makes Me Horny!

Yesterday we were sitting, listening to channeling during meditation group, and our spirit guides asked a question- how can someone restore their sex drive when it appears to be lost? And this is what popped into my head: meditation.  Meditation makes me horny.  Of course, I blurted it out.  I’m not one to hold back! Literally very often while I am meditating alone, I can feel myself having sexual feelings arise in my yoni.  (Yoni is a tantric word for “sacred place”, used to refer to the  female genitalia without all the negative associations of a word like ...

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The “Him-Shaped Void”

A few months ago, I read a book called Dear Lover by David Deida.  In it he talks about a concept he called the him-shaped void.  In my mind, I changed it to the man-shaped void, so that’s what I prefer to call it now.  I’m quirky like that. Regardless of what it is called, I was experiencing it.  My “friend with benefits” from last year left a man-shaped void in my heart and body that just wasn’t going away.  David Deida describes it in a way that makes it sound like an actual physical/energetic thing, not just a construct of the mind.  And based on my ...

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When Sparks Don’t Fly

There comes a time in any long term relationship when sex is just not the same as it used to be.  One day, it seems you wake up, and you realize the sparks are not flying.  What happened to that feeling that you couldn’t wait to be with the other person?  What happened to those butterflies in your stomach?  Or, depending on how far along this path you are, what happened to your sex drive altogether? Many people, at this point, assume that it is over.  You tell yourself you have fallen out of love with your partner.  You may decide to leave the relationship, or ...

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One Night Stand S.E.X.

Okay, I admit it's not as scandalous as the title sounds.  But it is a juicy story, so you may want to read on:  Several months ago I did something I rarely do, I went out dancing.  Not that I don't like to dance- I love it actually, but just don't seem to get around to it that often.  So a friend and I went out.  It was a nice place with a bar where you could get food and drinks. We met up with a guy.  A married guy.  And also, I should say, a very ordinary seeming guy at first glance.  He was not particularly good looking, and he was kind of on the short side ...

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S.E.X. Maniacs

"We're constantly having sex over here", our spirit guides said to us one day during channeling.  Wow, what  a bunch of sex maniacs, I thought to myself.  Sounds great.  Wish I were over there! That was a while ago.  I now realize two things I didn't know then: 1.  They're constantly having S.E.X. over there, not sex over there.  As in, Synergistic Energy Exchange, as in two or more working cooperatively together to exchange energy. 2.  We're constantly having S.E.X. over here too.  As in, we are constantly exchanging energy, whether we know it or not.   ...

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God is Pro-Sex

I have been wondering, what is my exact purpose?  What is the essence of my message to the world?  If I had to boil it all down to one phrase, what would it be?  And I keep coming back to the same thing: God is Pro-Sex.  It’s that simple. In ancient times, most of the world’s spiritual practices connected spirituality and sexuality.  As our spirit guides stated just the other day in channeling: “your sexuality IS your spirituality.” Today, most spiritual disciplines tell us that the way to become enlightened is through controlling or denying the senses ...

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Monogamy Revisited

Okay, so here’s the deal.  I am not perfect.  You’re really surprised by that, aren’t you? I am actually a work in progress, just like all of you and as such I may change my ideas about things from time to time, as I am about to do right now. In a previous blog, I made an argument that we, as human beings, are not meant to be monogamous.  Well, I have since found out more information on that. As some of you know, I am frequently exposed to channeling during our Sunday “meditation group”.  We call it the meditation group, but that’s just to make ourselves ...

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A New Year’s Resolution

Personally I’m not that into New Year’s resolutions, but if you are I do have a recommendation.  I know you’re thinking along the lines of getting in better shape or making more money in 2012, right?  Or maybe you want to quit smoking, drinking, or eating junk food? I say if you’re going to bother to make a resolution this year, why not make it one that’s more fun than all that stuff?  Resolve to have more sex in 2012.  Or better yet, how about more S.E.X. (Synergistic Energy Exchange)?  Hopefully, if you have been reading my blog, by now you are learning ...

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More on S.E.X.

Last week, I wrote about Synergistic Energy Exchange, or S.E.X.  It’s when two or more people work together cooperatively to create an exchange of energy.  (Wait, is “work” really the right word here?  Let me know if you come up with a better one.)  As you may remember, I said that S.E.X. is and has always been more about the energy exchange itself than what the bodies are doing.  In fact, the bodies may be clothed, unclothed, touching, not touching- it doesn’t matter.  It is the Synergistic Energy Exchange, not the actions of the bodies without which S.E.X. ...

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Sex is Not What You Think

Sex is not what you think.  Have you ever really asked yourself the question of what sex is?  Chances are, if you’re like most people, you just assumed it’s what our popular culture says it is.  Either a man/woman, man/man, or woman/woman intertwining their naked bodies and getting it on, right?  On the surface, of course, you’re right.  But it’s so much more than that. Sex, or S.E.X. is actually Synergistic Energy Exchange.  Synergistic means working together cooperatively.  So S.E.X. is when two (or more) people work together cooperatively to create an ...

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