The “D Word”
That's what my daughter used to call "divorce" when she was five. When her dad and I got divorced. Interestingly, she was unknowingly reflecting the attitude of our whole society toward divorce. We treat it is if as it were a bad word. Kind of like Valdemort from...
Open Your Eyes
The other day during my massage, a message came through for me: "open your eyes". That's all. No hints. Just those three words. Sheesh, non-physical is so damn mysterious sometimes! 😉 The immediate hit I got was that is was something positive, some blessing in...
Sweet Spots Happen- Part II
So then last weekend was when I landed on the name for where my poly partner and I are at: the "sweet spot". Let me back up a bit. I left off last week telling about our recent round two of concealing, pain, mistrust, revealing, recommitting to transparency, and...
Sweet Spots Happen
After my (rather dramatic) blogs about my dating experience in my polyamorous relationship, you may have been wondering...well, what happened next? Thankfully, things have settled down quite a bit, so there hasn't been as much to tell. And, this past weekend, I...
Word of the Day: Come
Have you ever wondered just exactly what it means when someone says the word "come", in reference to having an orgasm? Actually, let me back up here a minute. You've probably noticed I did not spell "come" like this: "cum". I really don't like that spelling of it. ...
On Going Down
Let's talk about oral sex. One of my favorite topics, actually. 🙂 How about you? Do you like it? Do you like receiving it? Do you like giving it? Recently it has been on my radar that plenty of people, both men and women, do not think they are particularly good...
You Make That Sound Like a Bad Thing
I was thinking about this while I was blow drying my hair this morning: Have you ever noticed how many of our swear words (in this culture and others) have to do with sex? Things like: "f*ck you", "you're a pr*ck", "you're a c*nt", "eat me"....you know what I'm...
I Saw my “Friend”- Twice!
I'm talking about my friend the Barred Owl. I saw it about a year ago and blogged about it. Then recently, I saw the same type of owl two more times. Animal totems change throughout people's lives, and I'm quite sure now that this owl is my animal totem since at...
‘Til Death do us Part?
Really?! I don't know about you, but deep down inside, I have always had a "niggle" about this phrase...something that in my body I could feel I was not okay with, but that I could not put into words... And then, just as I had been writing about love affairs and such...
What if Affairs Were a Thing of the Past?
What if the only parts of love "affairs" were the good parts that I talked about in my last blog? What if those whose souls truly, deeply wanted to be monogamous with each other chose that, and the rest chose polyamory? What if those "affairs" weren't really affairs...