Still on the Self-Compassion Kick
I do want to share with you more of the self-compassion techniques that I referenced in my last blog, “Self-Compassion is the Antidote to Suffering”. As you may have surmised, I was often times in a desperate state during the time period I am now choosing to call my “dark night of the soul”. I had the benefit of having a very dear friend channel for me when I felt like I just couldn’t take it anymore and needed some guidance from non-physical.
Once while in such a channeling session, I was asking for help. I don’t recall who was speaking through for my Ascension Council at the time, it was probably Mother Mary or Lady Nada (the over-soul of Mary Magdalene), since they were the two most often addressing me during that time period. The message was this: “It is time for you to rest in the arms of your angels”. The visual image of my doing just that was immediately comforting to me. So, I took it to heart.
Normally, when I lie down to sleep, I roll onto my side. So I naturally started out lying on my side when I needed to cry. During the darkest months, I cried nearly every day for long periods of time. I soon learned that lying on my side for crying resulted in having more swollen eyes than if I lay on my back. (Just a little tip for my fellow frequent criers out there. :))
Here’s the technique I created using a combination of the suggestion I had received from my Council and my new, better crying position. I would tune in to the body sensations of my back body touching the surface I was lying on, which would most likely be my bed. And then I would visualize in my mind’s eye my angels literally holding me up, so that the pressure I felt where my body touched the bed became the pressure of my body making contact with the arms of my angels. And then I allowed myself to feel just how supported I really am. And even though I was still in pain, and still most likely crying, I was comforted by this. And I was allowing myself to have some compassion for myself in those moments. I think the key thing was, I felt I deserved to be supported enough to actually allow myself to feel how supported I am. That was where the self-compassion part came in.
You, too, can use this technique, and you don’t even have to be crying! 🙂 The next time you are upset about something, take some space for yourself. Lie down on your back and tune in to the body sensations of your feelings. Where in your body do you feel them? Are you able to identify them? It’s okay if you aren’t; just notice that too. Then go to the method I described above. Repeat those two steps as needed (feeling feelings, feeling supported) until you have ridden the wave of your feeling. Sometimes just a few moments of self-compassion can allow you to feel what you need to feel and move on, rather than prolong the whole thing through avoidance.