One Night Stand S.E.X.

Okay, I admit it’s not as scandalous as the title sounds.  But it is a juicy story, so you may want to read on:  Several months ago I did something I rarely do, I went out dancing.  Not that I don’t like to dance- I love it actually, but just don’t seem to get around to it that often.  So a friend and I went out.  It was a nice place with a bar where you could get food and drinks.

We met up with a guy.  A married guy.  And also, I should say, a very ordinary seeming guy at first glance.  He was not particularly good looking, and he was kind of on the short side for a man.  I’m usually more attracted to taller men.  But then something unexpected and wonderful happened.  Over the course of the evening, we talked quite a bit.  Eventually we got out onto the dance floor, but in the meantime, I realized I had a strong attraction to this man.  In many ways.  Intellectually, we were very compatible. We had similar ways of thinking, common interests, and he was extremely funny and charismatic.  All of this added up to my being very sexually attracted to him as well, even though at the beginning of the evening I didn’t feel that way.  (He was there without his wife, needless to say, I think.)

We acknowledged our mutual attraction to each other.  Being free as a bird, I can do whatever I choose with whomever I choose.  I sensed that if I lured him into my den of iniquity he would have come, so to speak.  Ahem.  But then I would have been out of integrity.  And the momentary satisfaction would not be worth it in the end.  I didn’t even seriously consider it, but I did fantasize about it, for a moment or two!  I told him my position on the whole issue.  He kept saying things like:  “It’s not fair.”  I knew what he meant.  I’ve been in lustful situations in which I was probably telling myself the same thing.  But this time, I felt differently about it.  I was content to just enjoy his company and all the delicious feelings that were running through my body.  I was truly being in the moment, savoring every bit of the experience.  I think I knew it would be a one-shot deal with him.

Like I said, we did end up dancing with each other.  And it was amazing.  I remember thinking, the way we were gazing into each other’s eyes the whole time:  people who don’t know us probably think we are a couple in love.  Because in that moment we were in love.   I know it sounds crazy, how could two people who just met be in love?  But what I later realized is that, no, we were not true strangers, as in our souls knew each other before that evening.  Also that the amazing feelings I was experiencing were because we were having S.E.X. (Synergistic Energy Exchange) with each other.  And that being open to S.E.X. rather than always thinking I need to have sex can be an amazing experience.  I was not frustrated at all (okay, maybe a little), I was just thoroughly enjoying each moment.

We parted ways, and have never seen each other again.  I doubt we will.   But I am grateful to him for co-creating that experience with me.  For helping me realize what is possible with S.E.X.  It was incredible.  Heck, I’ve had sex that pales in comparison!

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