You Make That Sound Like a Bad Thing

I was thinking about this while I was blow drying my hair this morning:  Have you ever noticed how many of our swear words (in this culture and others) have to do with sex?  Things like:  “f*ck you”, “you’re a pr*ck”, “you’re a c*nt”, “eat me”….you know what I’m talking about, right?  Basically, our sexual body parts and sexual acts are referenced as if they’re something bad or negative.   And talking about anything sexual or making reference to anything sexual is many times thought of as “inappropriate” or “dirty”.

Have you ever thought about why or how all of this came to be?  When did sex, or S.E.X., to more accurately describe it, become something bad?  How is it that we have all been effortlessly brainwashed by our culture to buy into this?

Surely, we didn’t come out of the womb with negative attitudes about sex.  In fact, babies and toddlers, in not stopped from doing so, will touch their genitals simply because it feels good.  And fetuses, who can’t be stopped, have been observed masturbating in the womb….because, after all, it feels good!

I suppose the more important question here besides when (thousands of years ago) or why (due to the agenda of many religions worldwide) is this:  What are we willing to do about it?

I am probably one of the most sex-positive people on the planet.  Yet that does not make me immune to the same cultural influences.  None of us is.  I, too, have internalized the negativity associated with sexuality and have been known to throw out a “f*ck you” or two when I’m angry, or just joking around.

What would happen if we started a movement toward seeing sex as the joyful, intimate, loving, spiritual, fun, holy, and f*cking awesome (notice the good use of the word “f*ck”) thing that it is?  What if we changed the way we use sexual words?

I think that would go a long way toward removing some of the shame that we have in our culture around sex.

My suggestion is this:  let’s start talking about sex more openly and more positively, and let’s start pointing it out when others reference sex  in a negative way.

The next time someone says “f*ck you” to you, you could switch things up by replying:  “You make that sound like a bad thing!”

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