You Know You’re Having Good Sex When…
…your entire body and mind is so completely relaxed afterward that you feel like you just got a full-body massage.
…after it’s over, you both break out into a fit of laughter that feels like it may never end.
…you cry during sex, in a good way.
…you are so loud that you are afraid the neighbors are going to call the police about a possible attempted murder going on next door.
…you find yourself curling up into the fetal position, unable to move or speak for a while.
…you just finished having sex and all you can think about is when you are going to do it again.
…your eyes literally roll back in your head.
…you think about the sex you recently had with your partner(s), and get turned on all over again.
…you are still willing to have sex, even when you aren’t feeling well, or are tired, or otherwise out of sorts.
…you get a perma-grin afterward.
…you get asked whether you’d rather live the rest of your life without sex or without food, and you choose food!
…sex feels like a pleasure, and not an obligation.
…your teeth go numb somewhere in the middle of it, from all the heavy breathing.
…at some point you lose all comprehension of who you are, where you are, and exactly what is happening (aka altered state of consciousness).
…you smile to yourself every time you think about your sex life.
…you read a list like this one and feel happy rather than envious, bitter, and judgmental.
If you can relate to any or all of the list above, congratulations! I’m very happy for you, and you are part of the solution to the world peace that I speak of on occasion. (I’m serious. I have a theory that if we were all having great sex, we’d all be a lot less cranky, and feel less of a need to direct our energy toward conflict and wars.)
If you can’t relate to the above list, but want to be able to, all is not lost. The research shows over and over again that frequent sex leads to an increase in sexual satisfaction. Simply put, more sex = better sex. So get out there and have more sex with your partner(s)!
And guess what else? According to Psychology Today magazine, if you are having more frequent sex (and therefore better sex), you are more likely to report a higher level of overall happiness in your relationship as well. Sounds like a win-win to me!
In addition to having more sex, there are so many more resources out there today to help couples have better sex. There are books, videos, and blogs 😉 about sex. There are sex therapists, surrogates, and life coaches. There are workshops, seminars, and week-long courses on sex. There are whole stores and websites full of sex toys designed to enhance the quality of your sex.
We are in a new wave of sexual revolution. Get out there and take advantage of the benefits of the era that you have chosen to live in!