What I Love About Being Poly…
…SO FAR. I mean, really, I haven’t even been in a polyamorous relationship that long, it’s barely been three months, and I’m overflowing with love for the lifestyle already. Here’s what’s on my list to date:
1. Today, I was about to take a nap, and I had this thought, that I just had to journal about immediately: One of the things I looove about being poly is that it takes so much of the pressure off. I no longer have to worry about being my partner’s everything. Nor do I have to worry about his being my everything. That just creates so much freedom for me!
2. And speaking of freedom, not once have I had that “trapped” feeling, like I have in virtually every monogamous relationship I’ve ever been in. I don’t care how much I was enjoying my monogamous partners, or how much I was in love with each of them, I also felt trapped. Like I wasn’t free. Not because they were restricting me; because I was restricting myself through my agreement to be monogamous (which I now realize is not my soul’s desire). It was what I thought I was supposed to be doing, as opposed to what I wanted to be doing.
3. Nothing monotonous about this. Each day a new adventure. And a new opportunity for learning and growth.
4. I always feel so lucky to be able to spend time with my partner when I can. We can’t see each other as often as some monogamous couples do, and that’s really okay with me. Sometimes I miss him, and when I get to see him, it always feels like a party!
5. I love the freedom of expression. I could be at a party with him, flirt my ass of with whomever I want, and he can too. If I feel like it, I have the freedom to make out with someone else (him too, of course, quid pro quo here). And then we could go home together at the end of the evening and f*ck each others brains out. My idea of perfection.
That’s all I want to say for now. I’ll keep you posted as more things come up.
Oh, there is one more thing…remind me not to think of him right before I take a nap. It doesn’t lead to much sleeping ;)!