On Being Single
Last night I woke up in the middle of the night to pee. I know, nothing out of the ordinary, right? But what happened next was.
For some reason, while I was sitting there, the fact that I am alone, I am single right now, came up. And for a split second I felt sad. And then, the message (from…somewhere) popped in: “Enjoy it while you can.” Next, I started to effortlessly make a mental list of all the benefits of being single:
– I hardly shave anything, ever anymore
– I sleep fabulously at night (with the occasional pee break!)
– I never worry about disturbing someone else’s sleep
– I get to make all the decisions about where to go and what to do without considering anyone else
– I have sex (with myself) whenever I want to and never when I’m not really in the mood
I’m sure there are others. But the experience made me think of what our spirit guides often say to us during channeling: “Your soul wants to experience all of it.”
I am starting to see that it really, truly is all my creation, or at least my co-creation with Source and others. And that there’s a gift in all of it. In being in relationship. In being single. In grieving. In being angry. In being scared. And in having sexual feelings. Literally every experience I create in my life offers the opportunity to experience ecstasy in its own way.
I have a sense that my time of being single is slowly drawing to an end. And that’s okay too. But for now, I’m going to just enjoy these hairy legs!
Chris
January 18, 2012 (9:41 pm)
i miss my own life sometime
Maria Merloni
January 19, 2012 (2:22 pm)
I understand the feeling…and I wonder, what are the gifts in being “coupled”? (for you, they could be different for everyone.)
Chris
January 19, 2012 (6:47 pm)
For me being coupled has such advantages as someone easily accessible to talk to, someone to share responsibilities with, someone to have unprotected sex with, someone to getaway with, and someone whose strengths supplement mine. I am sure I could think of more but after reading your recent blog, I thought back to having my own apartment with a lot less stress.
Maria Merloni
January 20, 2012 (11:33 am)
Nice list, and it sounds like you had a longing come up when you heard about my boring- I mean free- single life!
Chris
January 20, 2012 (3:50 pm)
i think you make it exciting when you want to 🙂
Maria Merloni
January 21, 2012 (2:51 pm)
I agree 🙂