‘Til Death do us Part?

Really?!  I don’t know about you, but deep down inside, I have always had a “niggle” about this phrase…something that in my body I could feel I was not okay with, but that I could not put into words…

And then, just as I had been writing about love affairs and such this week, in my inbox was my daily Abraham quote that read:

That “death do us part” thing is a protective mechanism. It says, “I don’t trust me, and I don’t trust you to be in a place where we are evoking the best from each other. And so, just to make sure, let’s promise that even if we don’t, we’ll suffer it out together.” Every law, sacred or secular, that we have ever seen in your environment has always come from a place of disconnection, from a place of protectiveness.

Ummm, yeah.  I don’t think it was a coincidence that this came to my inbox when it did.  So I am sharing it with you.

And it expresses perfectly just what I had not been able to put my finger on.  My truth is this:  no one really, really, knows how long they are going to be with any partner in particular.  Of course, we would all like to believe that when things are going fabulously in our relationships, this is the one!  That special person we are going to be with forever.  Sounds like a Hallmark card, doesn’t it?

However, as I have learned from my non-physical friends and from my life experiences, it is rarely the case that two people’s souls plan to be monogamously together for a lifetime.

We have been told quite a different story, though, by our society.  We have been told that we are meant to be partnered, monogamously.  That we are to get married.  That we are to stay married forever.   And that the only way we can get off the hook on this one is if our partner dies before we do.  This could be a long wait.  Just sayin’.  😉

And in the meantime, so many couples have “suffered it out together”, all because they have been told a bunch of stories that weren’t true.

I’m not suggesting that we do away with marriage.  I’m suggesting that in this case, as in all things in life, we would be much better served to check in with ourselves and see what our desires are before making decisions.  That we live by choice, not by default.

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