Sweet Spots Happen

After my (rather dramatic) blogs about my dating experience in my polyamorous relationship, you may have been wondering...well, what happened next?  Thankfully, things have settled down quite a bit, so there hasn't been as much to tell.  And, this past weekend, I realized that my "primary" and I have reached a real "sweet spot" in our relationship, and that part of the reason for that is how we are doing handling the green-eyed monster, aka jealousy. In writing this now, I realize it is hard to tell a story about one aspect of relationship without involving others.  That is because all aspects of relationship are intertwined. I can't really talk about jealousy without talking about trust....

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Word of the Day: Come

Have you ever wondered just exactly what it means when someone says the word "come", in reference to having an orgasm? Actually, let me back up here a minute.  You've probably noticed I did not spell "come" like this:  "cum".  I really don't like that spelling of it.  To me, it cheapens the whole experience and does not describe what is really happening at all. Also, before I get into what it means, let's have a review about Who You Really Are.  You are a radiant being.  You are a grand soul.  You are God/dess embodied.  Got it? ;)...

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On Going Down

Let's talk about oral sex.  One of my favorite topics, actually. :) How about you?  Do you like it?  Do you like receiving it?  Do you like giving it? Recently it has been on my radar that plenty of people, both men and women, do not think they are particularly good at it, and do not enjoy it much. I think part of the problem here is that they are placing too much emphasis on the technique, seeing it as a "job" and not seeing it as something that can be fun for themselves.  (Really, we should change the name "blow job" to something else....any suggestions?)...

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You Make That Sound Like a Bad Thing

I was thinking about this while I was blow drying my hair this morning:  Have you ever noticed how many of our swear words (in this culture and others) have to do with sex?  Things like:  "f*ck you", "you're a pr*ck", "you're a c*nt", "eat me"....you know what I'm talking about, right?  Basically, our sexual body parts and sexual acts are referenced as if they're something bad or negative.   And talking about anything sexual or making reference to anything sexual is many times thought of as "inappropriate" or "dirty"....

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I Saw my “Friend”- Twice!

I'm talking about my friend the Barred Owl.  I saw it about a year ago and blogged about it.  Then recently, I saw the same type of owl two more times.  Animal totems change throughout people's lives, and I'm quite sure now that this owl is my animal totem since at least a year ago.  Determining which animal is your totem is not about simply seeing the animal here or there; it's about the way in which the animal is seen.  It's usually in a notable way.  ...

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‘Til Death do us Part?

Really?!  I don't know about you, but deep down inside, I have always had a "niggle" about this phrase...something that in my body I could feel I was not okay with, but that I could not put into words... And then, just as I had been writing about love affairs and such this week, in my inbox was my daily Abraham quote that read:...

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What if Affairs Were a Thing of the Past?

What if the only parts of love "affairs" were the good parts that I talked about in my last blog? What if those whose souls truly, deeply wanted to be monogamous with each other chose that, and the rest chose polyamory? What if those "affairs" weren't really affairs anymore, and were simply loving another person in addition to the partner(s) we already loved? What if people learned to trust themselves and each other? What do you think the world would be like if all those things came to pass?...

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What’s so Bad about a Love Affair?

I know there is a lot of judgment out there about people who have affairs.  I've even judged myself and others for having them. And, I'd like us to rethink the whole thing.  I'm not saying that people should have more affairs, or even that they are not "wrong" in the sense that the people involved are out of integrity. I'm saying let's take a step back and look more closely at just what a love affair is.  Why are people so drawn to them?  What happens to the two people involved in an affair?...

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Same-Sex Attraction

I think it's about time we started to admit that we are attracted to one another.  People are attracted to one another.  Yes, I know there is such a thing as being heterosexual.  That's not what I'm talking about.  What I'm saying is everyone, or just about everyone, is attracted to those of the same sex and the opposite sex, to an extent. What is an attraction, anyway?  Does it have to mean:  "I want to have sex with you?"  What if we simply defined attraction as being lit up in the presence of another person?  ...

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I Am a Gem…And so Are You.

This phrase, and the knowledge that I was going to write this blog, came to me a couple of nights ago.  It was just after a session with a client.  I was tuned in during the session in a way that I have rarely been before in this lifetime.  Sometimes the Universe delivers the goods just to give me a sign when I need it most.  ...

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