“You ARE God!”
Recently, I was in a session with a client, (discussing spiritual stuff, as is often the case) and we were talking about listening to our messages. You know...those impulses that come into our heads and nudge us to do something? Yeah, those. She was saying how many times she doesn't follow hers because she feels she is "going against God." I immediately got that it was because of her traditional church upbringing.
I looked her right in the eye, and said: "You ARE God!"
Many of us have been taught to believe that we are somehow separate from God/dess. We ...
I Stand Corrected
Some of you may have seen my post on Facebook in which I declared my love for Adam Gottlieb and my alignment with his message. I saw him at Ralph's Diner in Worcester and I was blown away. I said that I loved his message. (Plus I may or may not have mentioned that I developed a huge crush on him over the course of the evening.) I talked to and even hugged that man.
I loved his music and his poetry so much, I bought one of his CD's. Paid him double the amount he was asking, because- damn- the kid is so talented, and he must be living in poverty with what he ...
I Talk to Myself
I know you're probably thinking one of two things: either "You're crazy." or "Doesn't everyone?" What I am referring to, though, is not the regular, everyday kind of talking to myself (of course, you won't be surprised to learn I do that too). It's a new kind of talking to myself that I recently invented.
I have started using it whenever I find myself in a funk. Like, I wake up in the morning and I feel kind of blah or low energy, probably not even for any particular reason. Or, a series of things happen during that day that seem "bad" and I find myself in a ...
S.E.X.- It’s Not What You Think it Is
Many of you who've been around me for years know that Synergistic Energy Exchange is not necessarily synonymous with sex. What is S.E.X., then? It's a cooperative exchange of energy between two or more beings. The truth is, S.E.X. is happening all the time even though we don't always think of it or know it when it's occurring. For example, if you and I are sitting in a room meditating together, our blended energies create an enhanced meditation experience and, technically, we are having S.E.X.- with all our clothes on, and while not even touching!...
You’re Welcome
By now you've all heard the common self-love building technique of saying "thank you" (rather than deflecting) when someone gives you a compliment, right? Well, although I do recommend following that advice, this blog is about remembering to say "you're welcome".
Have you noticed that many times when someone thanks you for something, anything, you don't actually say "you're welcome"? I have. Maybe it's gone out of style or something. Someone texts me a paragraph, and within it are the words "thank you". I respond to the text, but ignore the thanks. Another possible response is "think nothing of it" or "it was nothing". Really? Doesn't that invalidate both the person who is expressing gratitude, and yourself for having done a good deed? I used to have a friend that said "think everything of it." At least that was funny. Sometimes I just say "no problem". Well, that is an acknowledgement that the person has thanked me, at least....
A New Way to Grieve
Christmas was bittersweet for me this year. Yes, I enjoyed the time I spent with my family, and I was also grieving on that day. Anyone who has had a major loss (which is practically everyone) knows that the holidays can be a time when they especially miss the person they have lost. In my case, I have been grieving the loss of my primary partner at a deeper level, now that we are not in any contact whatsoever and there is the distinct possibility we may never be. It has been kind of like starting over at the first stage of grief. (Not as intense this time, and still starting over.)
So after all the festivities were over, I came back home by myself and went on- what else- Facebook. I saw an article that a friend had tagged me in about female orgasm, and the more I read, the more sexual feelings I was having. I decided a bit of self-pleasuring was in order. When I got started, however, I realized this was going to be a sort of multi-tasking; my grief re-surfaced as well....
There’s no Place Like Home
I know I haven't mentioned this in a while....grief takes time. Yes, there are exciting wonderful new things happening in my life (not with a new romantic interest- too soon) and I am still in my grief process.
"Bargaining" is the second to last stage in the process. Don't let that phrase 'second to last' fool you. It's not a linear process. Things go 'round and 'round until they're done. And there's no way of predicting when that will be.
So, I was there in the bargaining phase not too long ago. And at the end of it, I realized there needed to be a period of absolutely no contact between me and my former partner. I was sad; I had some tears streaming down my face at that moment of realization. And then I pushed my sadness down. Rationalized that I'd already felt it to completion, that there couldn't really be much there since I'd already come so far in my grief process. (That's correct, you are not the only one who lies to yourself occasionally to "protect" yourself from pain.)...
A Master of “Time”
I did a quick, down-and-dirty sticky note technique for mapping out my goals in 2105. I highly recommend doing this. It doesn't have to be a big-deal, "serious" thing. Do some breathing or meditation for a few minutes, get out a sticky note, and just let the first three things that come up go from your heart-brain through your hand to your paper. Start to finish, this exercise took all of three minutes. And the last thing that came out for me was: Become a master of "time." (Note: last doesn't necessarily mean least important.)
I put "time" in quotation marks because it is actually an illusion constructed by us so that we have some kind of a sense of urgency to do what we came here to do....otherwise we might spend most of our lives lying around eating bon-bons....well, and maybe one other thing. ;) ...
On Self-Trust
Before we can trust another, we must trust ourselves. If we have made decisions that we regret, betrayed ourselves by not being in our power, or had other experiences that didn't go well in our lives, chances are- even if we don't know it- somewhere inside there lies a belief that we ourselves are not trustworthy. Until recently, I was suffering from this "condition" myself.
One sign of a lack of self-trust is not trusting what your inner voice is telling you. Have you ever had the experience, after the fact, of saying: " I knew it!". Well, yes, you did. And you didn't act accordingly because you weren't trusting yourself in that moment. ...
“ULP!”
Some of you may have seen my recent Facebook post when I mentioned something about all parts of my life "working" at the same time? Well, that lasted about twenty-four hours! Literally the next day, I was overwhelmed, unmotivated, tired, and feeling depressed.
So, what happened? ...