There’s no doubt that, as human beings, sex can and often does feel terrific- whether it’s masturbation, or sex with partners. In fact, it feels so good that often we tend to think it’s enough. What more could we want? Human touch, pleasure, endorphins…what’s not to love, right?
I agree, and there is so much more if we choose it. If we go deeper, to a realm of spirituality and possibilities. Making love with our souls is magical.
What if you’re not having a great time with sex? Or, you used to enjoy it, and now you’re kind of bored? No matter what your experience (or inexperience) with sex has been, I still recommend Soul S.E.X., probably even more so!
I know this may sound like a sexy intro, and you’re probably expecting some really hot, new sex tips now.
Here’s the thing: I am going to give you some really hot sex tips, and, as with all good sex, it starts with you.
It starts with some practice “making love” to ourselves.
The first step is to create sacred space. Look around and tidy up the room you are in. Cleanse the energy with sage if you have it, or simply through your intention. Allow any heaviness in the room to simply flow out the window with a sweeping of your arms. Empty the trash, put everything in its place. Make sure you have at least 20 minutes of undistracted time. Turn your phone off. Light a candle, and place it nearby. You may do this clothed or unclothed, your choice.
Sit with a straight spine and feet either on the floor or legs crossed. Close your eyes. Take several long deep breaths, in through the nose, and out through the mouth, releasing any tension you may notice. Next, continue to breathe slowly and deeply, but this time do it in through the nose and out through the nose. This will give your body the message that all is well.
Now, tune in.
What if your body were a conduit for pure, Universal Love? It is! We all have hundreds of chakras, or energy centers, in our bodies. There are 7 main chakras that run up and down the spinal chord. Each has its own separate energy, color, meaning, and purpose. For now, we will be focusing on some of the “higher” chakras, those that focus on love, and connection to the Divine.
Close your eyes and picture the crown chakra, the energy center most connected to the heavens, on the top of the head. It is the color of royal purple. Imagine that this crown chakra opens up like a funnel, and pure life force energy from the Heavens begins to enter. Energy follow intention, so by choosing to imagine, you are choosing to create.
The Love flows down from the crown of your head, through your brow and throat chakras (not a focus today) and straight into your heart. Your heart chakra is green, in the center of your chest, and it is the love chakra. Feel the energy flowing from the heavens straight down through your crown, to your heart. Yum.
Allow that pure Love energy to flow further. Imagine that from the heart it flows straight out to the sides, through the arms, and reaches your hands and the tips of your fingers.
Now is when you get to make love to yourself. This needn’t be anything sexual at all. Just practice loving yourself using your own touch, infused with the unconditional love of Spirit.
Using your dominant hand, place it somewhere on your body, your abdomen perhaps, or anyplace that you may have pain or discomfort. Feel the Divine energy entering your body. Keep picturing the flow from the heavens to crown, to heart and down the arms to your hands. Now begin to lightly stroke that part of your body. Send that warm, healing, Divine energy that continues to flow out of your hands and fingertips. This is making love. Making love doesn’t have to be sexual at all. It can be simply being in your soul essence, with Presence, allowing Universal love to flow. Allow yourself to enjoy.
By the way, through the act of choosing to flow love to yourself, you are also learning to love yourself more. And who couldn’t use more self-love?
Let your hands wander around your body- to limbs, face, scalp, joints, anywhere you feel moved to give yourself that healing, magical touch. Some people like to start at the head and move down to the toes, or vice versa. Just do what feels right for you.
You know when sex educators tell us to learn our own bodies and what pleases us, and then to teach partners what we like? This is kind of the same. We need to practice making love to ourselves first, before we can share it with another.
Keep practicing; taking some time for yourself each day or at least several times per week. This is self-love, and the basis for any type of connection- with God/dess, with yourself, with others.