A Sparkly Star

Here's a poem I wrote some time ago, that I got the impulse to share today.  Maybe some of you can relate.  We all have different parts of ourselves.                                                                              A Sparkly Star I came with my case of toilet paperAnd my case of paper towelsAnd toddler wipes, to keep the buttocks clean, but of course&...

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Are You Loving Yourself With Boundaries?

Boundaries have been coming up for me SO MUCH lately!  As I raise the bar with my own boundaries- again, defined by Brene Brown as “what’s okay, what’s not okay”- the next opportunity to inquire into and define my boundaries comes up. What I know about setting and keeping clear boundaries is that it is way the hell up there with top ways for us to love ourselves. The first time I heard that, it struck me as odd, or at least as a thought I’d never had before.  And, in time, I’ve come to realize how true that really is. I do recommend giving some ...

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How To Find Safety

Today, as we here in America are all still living in the place of limbo with the future of our country, I realize that what's most important to talk about is how to be okay with that.  Or rather, not only how to be okay with being in limbo, but also how to be okay no matter what the outcome.  No mater who wins or loses the election.  No matter what our individual and collective futures hold.   What I have been practicing for years is mostly how to be at peace in my own days.  I do care about what's happening in the world and have ...

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Has Your Passion Worn Off?

I've heard this not only from clients, but also from a number of therapists and coaches, acknowledging the drop off in passion that is "normal" for couples to experience.   Hell, I've even been known to say it myself! But guess what?  I have some GREAT news about this! It doesn't HAVE to be true.   Think about it.  When you first met each other, everything seemed magical, right?  You probably felt "butterflies in your stomach".  You were under the spell of this new relationship.  And every time you saw each other, ...

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Are You Connected?

Today's topic, CONNECTION can be defined, according to yours truly, as "Consciousness joining with Itself."   You may or not know this about me...I am a channel.  When I'm in the zone, I download information directly from the Divine Itself.  I downloaded that definition from God/dess as I was narrowing down my values to write my business plan, years ago.  More accurately, I could say, that's the definition of "connection" according to God/dess. Going back even more years, when I became an exotic dancer to pay for Life Coaching school, one of ...

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When Is Striving To Do Better Too Much?

So far, it's been really great, and I'm a "good student", meaning I'm following her advice, and it's working to help grow my business! The past couple of weeks, I've been working my "CEO Schedule" harder than ever.  And I'm pretty sure (okay, sure) I got a bit overzealous.   Putting myself and my work out into the Universe in a bigger way than ever has left me feeling raw and vulnerable at times.  If you've ever done this sort of thing, you'll know, it can be scary stuff! And, one morning this week as I was coming back from a bike ride, I ...

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How To Be Present Aka How To “Stay In The Middle”

I mean, before this particular client gave it a name, I was already realizing it was a really good thing to do at this time in history and already practicing it on my own.  It's not a new technique.  It's an old one.  Yet, as I'm sure many of you would agree- it's easier said than done.  "It" is simply the act of being Present.  For those of you that don't practice with me in person, it is my current go-to, mini meditation.  I often use it at the beginning of my sessions, including the group sessions.   Here's how it ...

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I Predicted A Baby Boom

...that I was wrong about that, at least in the U.S. What has happened is that in "high income" countries like the U.S., requests for birth control have increased, and there is a 300,000 to 500,000 decrease in the number of births predicted over the coming year.   In less wealthy countries, however, women have been cut off from birth control since April of 2020, and apparently in some of those countries, like India and Indonesia, there is an increase in pregnancies. However, none of these statistics actually speak to the issue of whether couples are having ...

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Feeling Disconnected? Timing Is Everything!

I'll save the topic of timing of sex for another day... For today, however, you know those times when you're upset about something to do with your relationship and you want to talk about it, in hopes that you'll feel better?   (Or, maybe you're the type that DOESN'T usually want to talk about it, for fear of feeling worse.) I am usually the first type.  I trust in the process of clear, honest communication.   Yesterday was an intense day for me.  In the morning I had an energy healing session.  Those are amazing, but can also ...

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True Or False: Relationships Are A Lot Of Work.

As I was saying....If you want to be satisfied and happy in your relationship, you will need to commit some time and attention to it. I know you may think you are committing time to your relationship.  Maybe you spend almost every night sitting next to your beloved watching tv or movies together.  You perhaps sleep in the same bed together.  You may eat one or more meals together each day.  You may even go grocery shopping together; some couples do. With all of that, you might feel like you can barely get away from your ...

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